Being Alone
Watch this postCan I ask am I the only person who feels incredibly lonely at times but am too scared to trust anybody? I had a couple of people asking me where I am etc. I said "sorry I am not on here to private chat" Afterwards I felt so rude. I have arrangements to go out & always cancel at the last minute. I would to hear if others feel like me. Thank you
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If anyone is within twenty miles of Farnborough Hants, I would be willing to meet up for a cuppa - chat - maybe even start up a meeting place for oldies Ha Ha!
There must be a lot of lonely people around, not only people looking for relationships, I'm convinced a lot of people might just want to talk and put the world to rights! 🙂
Patricia
We hoped to make new friends here.
I am 64 and have been separated from my husband for three years, estranged for longer. It takes two to tango, so..., cannot say it was all him. Difficulties have existed from the beginning, I just accepted the situation because of the children (now living independently).
Problems were basically sex and money, which is quite common. Threats of divorce loomed in the horizon all the time, like dark clouds in the distance. He was a good dad, and reasonable husband, but we were not happy. Now we are separated and I feel quite alone. Divorce now looms as a reality; next year.
I am shy and quiet, do not have community support, very few friends I see from time to time, but no one immediate. No family around, as they live abroad.
Very worried about where I will live after the house is sold, etc. Everything is so uncertain. At my age it feels like I have no time to start again with anything...
Just thought I might find some friends around here just to chat or even meet for coffee sometime.
All the best!
Good luck with your search
doing something every weekend going out to a pub on a Friday or Saturday or going for a walk on a Sunday
I plan to experience living alone for 12 months, to 'find myself' again and then see who or what life chucks in my direction
I have private chatted with one member of this site and was pretty horrified when he admitted that he was married. Although in actual fact he was doing nothing wrong just chatting to a female member I felt that he was in some way disrespecting his wife. I would not like it if my husband was chatting to a single female online!
Just spent the loneliest Christmas and New Year in my whole life and dearly want to change my solitary life!
I have to get myself out there and socialise but can I do so?
I left my partner 2 years ago, a bad experience and no regrets but now struggle to find friends, my family don’t understand and they are busy people.
I join clubs, work, volunteer etc etc. I think I chat well on a one to one basis but am never the life and soul of a party, don’t want to be.
I would like to start a group for like minded people on this subject. Support, sharing thoughts, perhaps meeting as a group has to be positive?
Im not keen on private chat and I wont meet up with anyone from the internet, after all you never really know who you are talking to!
I go at least 3 times a week to Bicester via Buckingham the only way at present on the bus, I have also through getting to know other passengers , who board at villages between my town and Buckingham , and have got chatting on first name basis .
The other I was involved with a local U3A but it did not appeal to me.
Today, I go to see shows have weekends away or in some cases a week, although a local tour operator, if not people on the coach from where I live as its a localish operator you soon start chatting on the coach or at your destination through your meals in the Hotel or on a day trip which might be part of the coach trip intinary.