Breaking Up Is Hard To Do
Watch this postI find myself at 57 starting over. I am happy most of the time, but it can be lonely...this is why I thought making new friends from all over the world would help fill the void Is there anyone else feeling the same pain?
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Firstly , please state where you are from. It is ridiculous to try to start a relationship with someone who lives in Europe if you live in the USA.
I am 62 and care for my wife (of 38 yrs) full time. We live in Huntingdonshire UK.
I too would like to chat to people from around here and even further afield just to fill the loneliness.
I am struck by the repeated use of that word in these forums. Loneliness.
And I ask myself WHY? Why are we all so lonely at this age? Surely the maturity and life lessons have taught us enough so that we do not need to play an elongated dating game? Let;s get to the point and state what we want. wpshark@gmail.com
I feel your pain and the loneliness too can only hope it will get better sending best wishes x
I am single now - i was in a long distance relationship, but it wasn't going anywhere. So it took a lot of courage but i ended it. Feel so hurt and lonely now as we spoke on the phone every night, he gave me this great future planned out, but they were all lies, my children have grown up and although two of them live at home still, they do their own things.
I was so looking forward in getting older, my children leaving home, etc but all i do is feel sad, work a lot and don't get a social life.
And it isn't just because i don't have a partner that i feel like this, its seems that i am in a rut and have no clue what to do with myself.
Have you tried contacting newfriends4u
It a penal-pal site that puts you Intouch with people
Worldwide
Pete
I realise it is a mine field out there and wish anyone in a similar position the very best.
I am Kaz.
I am on my own, age 58, very lonely and have no one at all now in my life, all of my friend have passed over with Cancer and I am in the same boat as you, I am thinking of moving to start a new life as I am in an area where there is nothing for someone on their own, worth being involved with, everyone is in families or couples and I feel out of it all.
I would love to meet new friends and have a new meaningful relationship but don't feel I am in an area where I can meet anyone, so I empathize with you, it is very hard.
It isn't the done thing as a woman, to be going in pubs alone in the hope of meeting someone, and it isn't much fun either, so it leaves you at a loss.
Online dating seems a joke, most of the profiles appear to be fake and others I have seen give me cause form concern, it is a minefield for someone in their late 50's on their own, how do we break out of the loneliness and isolation?
I am here if you want a friend Mary.
Kaz
Since my (last) divorce in 2001, I had a few, mostly bad, relationships, and nothing since about 2006. I was so busy with "life", I failed to recognize that it was passing me by.
I've traveled a few times since retirement, but always with my children. They are aged 20 to 39 now and have their own lives and aren't there to travel with. I recently took a trip to Tulum Mexico to stay with some "work" friends that had purchased a condo there. The last 2 weeks of the trip I spent in hostels in the Riveria area and Cancun. With all of the amazing people and things that I encountered on the 4 week trip, all I could think of was there wasn't someone there to enjoy it with me. I'm running out of excuses for not wanting, or needing, a relationship and/or network of friends, and it scares me!
It's been so long since I've been a part of the "dating" scene, that I've lost the confidence to pursue either an intimate, casual, or friendship based encounter. I'm turning 60 in April and have more or less accepted that I'll be alone during the last years. That's a depressing thought, and aside from the sexual needs/desires, I need to change that, as I'm a good person that deserves to have people in my life.
Thank you for writing your post, as it made me look at myself. A lot of what I shared in my post, I've never discussed before, so I feel better, and I hope that you will also get the connections that you need from this forum.
Trouble is with me is I like to have someone to do things with but family are all busy with their life's!
I'm a typical empty nest person and I've been divorced 5 years now.
The press and the TV are always giving us horror stories about fraud and scams that started with an on line contact, and quite rightly we all need to be careful. But what the media industry rarely features are the thousands of very successful relationships that started with an on line introduction. Try it for a couple of months, go very slowly and of course do not send money to anybody, no matter how plausible they seem
I have tried all the main on line introduction agencies giving appropriate criteria etc, Several contacts were suggested it is true but none of them were even close to the given profile. Is it surprising that a certain cynicism is felt?