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Just joined so I'm introducing myself.

I will be 67 next month and retired from the many different jobs in my working life. I guess that I didn’t ever find my calling. I went to university at age 59 but when it was over it was too late to launch a new career. I wanted to lecture but students don’t want to listen to old fogies, so sadly I put aside that idea and settled into life as an eccentric dog owner.

I live in a beautiful Lancashire valley surrounded by hills that demand they be walked/climbed, how could I refuse?

I would like to do a bit of cycle touring but a recent diagnosis of spondylosis and some hip pain means that I may not be doing a world tour anytime soon!

I’m keen to make some friends as I have been on my own for a very long time now, my daughters don’t bother much with me and I don’t have a partner.I didn’t expect to be so isolated at this time in my life, isn’t it strange the way family and friends seem to forget us when we get past 60?

I will pop in regularly and hope to strike up some friendships.


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cat95
13th Jun 2020 00:26:40 (Last activity: 16th Jun 2020 07:54:09)
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I am new here,, just wanting to say "hi" to everyone...
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Response from simbadog made on 16th Jun 2020 07:54:09
Hi Cat95

Pretty cat in your photo!

Welcome to the sight. I am relatively new to this. I have 2 cats one 11 months old she followed us home as a stray whilst walking our dog. We have just acquired a new kitten he's about 2 months old and again abandoned.. Luckily our aged dog doesn't mind.

I live in Menorca and love the outdoors
Please get in touch if you fancy a chat
female47
13th Jun 2020 07:39:15 (Last activity: 13th Jun 2020 08:31:24)
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Has everyone gone to bed? It's almost 1 a.m. here in Alberta Canada. I have insomnia so prowl like a night hawk. Thought I'd try a chat room.
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Charlesb
12th Jun 2020 17:54:05 (Last activity: 12th Jun 2020 18:04:23)
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I joined today and looking around. I am 68 and British but I was born in Sri Lanka. I love the country and the people of Sri Lanka. My hobbies are photography and travel, Music I love blues, jazz and soul. I am a retired nurse. Anybody likes to be friends just drop a line.

Take care and be safe everybody
Charles
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 12th Jun 2020 17:57:49
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Response from Charlesb made on 12th Jun 2020 18:04:23 > @Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
Hi Sally

Thank you very much for the warm welcome.

Like all new places I need time to figure it out but I am sure I will manage, if not I hope I can get back to you.

Many thanks
chaffinch42
12th Jun 2020 16:21:20 (Last activity: 12th Jun 2020 17:59:06)
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we are all alone with the covid lockdown I have been on my own since I lost my husband when I was 58 and now I am 78 .I have 5 children and grandchidren even great grandchildren I usually see some of them every week but with Lockdown I see nobody which is rather lonely though I still have 2 pets a small dog and a rather unfriendly cockatiel but it would be nice to wriet to omeone
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The_bees_knees
25th May 2020 08:41:38 (Last activity: 3rd Jun 2020 08:10:39)
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* 'daily'....was meant to read 'mainly'

...as that would mean I would:-

a) be lying
b) be broke
c)....a bad typist✓
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 3rd Jun 2020 08:10:39
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PatriciaB96
21st May 2020 20:45:04 (Last activity: 2nd Jun 2020 17:28:22)
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Good evening and welcome to the site x
Response from Joe59 made on 2nd Jun 2020 15:35:46
thank you and good evening to you
Response from Sally - Silversurfer's Editor made on 2nd Jun 2020 17:28:22 > @Joe59
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LR4020
30th May 2020 19:23:41 (Last activity: 30th May 2020 20:06:57)
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Hello Celt Witch,

Get out there (if possible) and join some groups, although with the COVID 19 threat we seniors need to stay alert.

Please write me back when you have time. I am a New Member.

Lynn (66 y.o. gentleman)
Maryland, USA
Response from CaroleAH made on 30th May 2020 20:06:57
Hi LR4020,
Celtwitch hasn't been on the site for quite a few years but there are plenty of other friendly people on here to chat to. Hope you make lots of friends! 🙂
rayjGA
23rd May 2020 19:18:18 (Last activity: 23rd May 2020 19:21:23)
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I have just joined and am a senior in Gainesville, Georgia. USA
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Sxshaskl
17th May 2020 00:07:36 (Last activity: 21st May 2020 17:05:36)
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Hi I am a 53 year old female keyworker just wanting to have a chat and say hello to everyone
Response from bigsammy made on 19th May 2020 10:57:07
helloooooooooooooooooooooooooo
Response from simbadog made on 21st May 2020 17:05:36
Hi Sxshaskl

Hi there and welcome. I'm relatively new myself here.
I live in the Balearics have done for the last 17 years and love the Spanish way of life.. Ex military my husband and I try to keep active and list walking as one of my favourite pastimes. Animal lover having a dog and rescue cat at home. Get in touch if you fancy a chat
bigsammy
19th May 2020 09:26:51 (Last activity: 19th May 2020 10:55:36)
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hello.hope your ok and keep up the good work.x
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Response from bigsammy made on 19th May 2020 10:55:36 > @Sally - Silversurfer's Editor
thank you.
bigsammy
19th May 2020 09:29:21
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hi and welcome..i hope you meet new friends.x
YorkshireLass100
17th May 2020 09:31:16
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Hi,
I am also working. Just helping out in the local Holland and Barrett shop to cover staff who are self isolating. Not very challenging but at least it gets me out of the 4 walls - before taking the job I was 19 hours a day with no one at all to talk to live, then 5 hours of trying to sleep.
Your doggie looks cute.
Regards
Christine
Christine249
27th Apr 2020 06:54:09 (Last activity: 12th May 2020 03:29:21)
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I will be turning 67 in a couple of days and it would be nice to find a friend to talk to. I've been alone for many years and I'm not looking for any kind of dating relationship. I am looking for someone in their sixties, preferably a female, who maybe in a similar situation. My family does not live around me and this stay home order has really made life lonelier than usual. I've been disabled since my early forties and it would be nice to be able to talk to someone who is also coping with growing old.
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Response from Sue - Silversurfers Assistant Editor made on 27th Apr 2020 09:24:38
Hi Christine249
Hello and welcome this is a very friendly site so we hope you met someone too that you can chat to...as it must be very difficult for you. Lots of area's to join in on.
Best wishes
Sue
Response from CarolynB5 made on 7th May 2020 12:55:53
Hi Christine I’m new on the forum bit older than you. 75. We live in a village in Wiltshire, and have been isolating ourselves as much as possible , Usually in the summer months we go to Portugal for a n extended holiday with my daughter and husband , we have 2 daughters one lives in Portugal the other one in Coventry . I don’t have any real hobbies used to knit but not lately , not very good at it but l like gardening when my body feels up to it as you mentioned getting used to growing old. Stay safe. Carolyn x
Response from fernwalker12 made on 10th May 2020 23:02:56
Hello Christine249,
I am fortunate here in my home with a sweet daughter and two grandchildren. If I want to mingle, I do. If not, I stay in my large room where I can read, do genealogy, watch TV, draw, knit, or finally learn to play my guitar!
Because I have so many interests I was never bored when we were under lockdown orders.

Yes, eventually all of us must cope with growing older, and the actress Bette Davis was wise to say. “Growing old isn’t for sissies.”
You look to the past to enjoy fond memories and look to the present to do those things that could or will bring you joy. You find joy by “doing,” and reaching out on this site for friendship is a positive action. I hope you make good friends on Silversurfers!
Response from midgey made on 12th May 2020 03:29:21
Hi Chistine Do not worry , lots of us out there the same. I have been alone since my mid 40s. I am 60ish now
At first it was terribly hard, but as the years pass by it honestly does get easier.
I just miss friendly chat, nothing else, friendly chat even to this day is hard to find sometimes
fernwalker12
10th May 2020 22:42:01
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Hello Celtwitch, I too have had quite a number of jobs and began my college days later in life at 33. I earned a professional teaching certificate but never held long term positions because I had the good fortune to travel instead.

I designed and help build three homes, the last one being my favorite. As a single woman, I dreamed that one up on my own!

I have one daughter and two grandchildren. Who knew being a grandmother could be so much fun as well as educational!

I enjoy making friends, travel, reading, genealogy, art, writing , movies, and more.

Well, that’s about all for now. Enjoy this beautiful day!
eileen54
10th May 2020 22:31:51
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hi I just joined today like you hoping to make new friends and make use of technology which I find a challenge ! I
enjoyed reading your post and those walks with the dogs around your home sound wonderful - enjoy them and especially with weather at moment
Silver kitty
7th May 2020 21:59:35 (Last activity: 7th May 2020 23:14:14)
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Hello I just joined is there any Aussies living in Perth interested in friendship I am a 50 year old female I'm only interested in making friends only 🙂
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Davidmorcharternet
30th Mar 2020 15:37:22 (Last activity: 24th Apr 2020 09:21:15)
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I'm suffering from the coronovirus blues. Does anyone have an uplifting message.
Response from Angel9uk made on 30th Mar 2020 19:57:10
Not really suffering if you have a roof over your head, are warm, well fed, books to read and music to listen to etc.
Think of it as time out and see what new activities you can do. Be thankful for what you have right now 🙂
Response from Debbie4 made on 22nd Apr 2020 06:14:02
Hello,
I was sitting outside looking at the beautiful sunshine, and looking at the very little flower stems beginning to poke through the dirt in my pots. I planted my flower seeds the day before we were all put into lockdown. Looking down at the tiny sprouts made me realize that just like those flowers that are struggling to grow and get out from under the darkness, we will also be coming out of this soon. Oh how wonderful it will feel to hug someone again!!!
Response from islandPat made on 22nd Apr 2020 08:58:20 > @Debbie4
You are soooo right. Tomorrow is another day and at this time of the year so much changes everyday. It's Earth Day today. When you work out how few days we will be restricted compared to how many days we have lived it puts it in perspective.

At five I had a cough that doc said was a summer cough. I went from the doc's to my grandma's and my aunt was there with my 2 cousins aged 2 yrs and 6 months. I coughed once there apparently - my sister and both cousins were infected with my whooping cough. I was the most seriously ill, the others only had a mild version. It was 16 weeks before I returned to school. I learnt my lesson very young.

Don't fret find something new to interest you, my school, bless them :(, sent me lots of reading and maths to do.

I go to this site to see if there's any free courses that interest me, it's run by Open University. Lots of different subjects, just scroll down to the one that interests you. I love history and literature. They also have a genealogy course which is my main hobby. It's called Future Learn if you want to find out about it before linking to it.

https://www.futurelearn.com/courses

Each day that goes past is a day nearer restrictions being lifted 🙂

Pat 🙂
Response from Kilmanorth made on 24th Apr 2020 09:21:15 > @Debbie4
Hi, I also think it would be wonderful to hug someone again, My divorce has just gone through after a very stressful three years, but I'm very grateful I have managed to keep the property. During that time I've managed to increase my circle of friends and have joined lots of things including the local pantomime group! Unfortunately my daughter and grand daughter live abroad so I only see them infrequently. I think life will be very different when we come out of this and people will appreciate what they have rather than what they would like.
chasinSunshine
20th Apr 2020 02:29:21 (Last activity: 24th Apr 2020 07:32:21)
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hello I live in the united states in Tennessee we have mountains and hills and lakes. and I love exploring, I dont like going alone but that seems to be my fate...I have a son who I havent seen in a very long time.. I have a nice place and work part time ..usually... it gets really lonely in the evenings... I am still energetic and healthy and never imagines just being alone..hope you are doing well and maybe can chat ..I am 65..
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Response from CubaLove made on 21st Apr 2020 18:50:12
Hello chasinSunshine,

I too am new (a few days), it's nice to meet you. It sounds idyllic where you live.

Being alone at this age is definitely not what I imagined when I was younger (will be 60 this year). I live alone now, have 2 sons, thankfully I do see them (well when not in lockdown) and grandchildren, my Mum, Brother, etc.

I actually love being free and single, that's not say it would be lovely to have someone to share your thoughts and day with but not 24/7 haha. I don't think I could go down that road again. When my life went topsy turvy, I learned to love myself, my own company (even though sometimes I was trying to convince myself, but it worked lol).
Response from lovinlife2016 made on 24th Apr 2020 07:32:21 > @CubaLove
Hi CubaLove,

I'm a carefree person who enjoy being alone. I'm my own best friend who like sharing thoughts, ideas and fun times.

My family live in different states so the next best thing to being there is video chatting.

I hear lots of people say they're bored being locked down, not me. I create activities to keep myself occupied and happy. Although I am thinking of finding someone to play online games with.

I'm 63 and feel it to a point I have to laugh when something new creeps up today that wasn't there yesterday.

Live for your dreams and not the expectations and opinions of others.
CubaLove
21st Apr 2020 18:41:29
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Hello celtwitch,

Sorry to hear about your health issues.

You may need to go somewhere hot to cycle, I think it will be better for your body with the heat of the sun.

I don't think our Sons, Daughters forget about us, it's just that daily life when you are a certain age is taken up with running a home, family, job etc.

I think once you make some friends and start living your life, you will make your life busy that you won't be able to fit your family in lol.

I too am on my own (have Sons, grandchildren, Mum, Brother etc.) but I joined a group near me who go out a lot. I like to go out sometimes with them (all on hold right now though) I couldn't keep up with them going out all the time.

Look forward to chatting.
CubaLove
15th Apr 2020 19:13:03 (Last activity: 21st Apr 2020 18:28:44)
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Hello everybody,

I've just joined. What a great site it seems to be so far.
I went on-line to look for a pen pal site really as I love writing letters, using a fountain pen.
I will be 60 in July. I have great family and friends. I work 10 hours a week, working from home, thank goodness too, otherwise I might drive myself mad with the isolating situation.

I have google earth on my phone so when I want to go travelling (armchair travel that is!) I just put in a country I want to visit and off I go.

Lovely to meet you all.
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Response from Wilf made on 15th Apr 2020 19:41:15
Welcome to Silversurfers CubaLove. We went to Cuba about 20 years ago for a week and loved it. Have you been there?. Wonderful people and such a vibrant society.
Response from Mo2311 made on 18th Apr 2020 11:32:15 > @Wilf
Hya no haven’t been to cub
Sounds good though
Response from CubaLove made on 21st Apr 2020 18:25:08 > @Wilf
Hello Wilf,

Thank you for responding, this is exciting.
I cycled 315km in Cuba in 2015 with the Cuba Solidarity Campaign it was a bit less than 2 weeks. I absolutely love it there. I definitely want to go back one day, maybe not to cycle - I'm not the fittest person. The people are just amazing.

Sorry it's taken me so long to write back, I couldn't find my way around the website, I had a senior moment lol.
Response from CubaLove made on 21st Apr 2020 18:28:44 > @Mo2311
Hello MO2311,

If you want a different experience, you want to work the land with the local people, or cycle and visit schools and hospitals, the Cuba Solidarity Campaign organise these trips.

You can also just book a holiday through a travel agent but as I am not one for just lazing on the beach, cycling for 315km (if you can't keep up, you go on the coach, which I did quite a bit), suited me more.
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