I have been forgotten, I no longer exist
Watch this postToday is my 58th birthday, the day started bright and sunny but very cold, I enjoyed an extended early morning walk with my dog before returning home for breakfast. There have been no phone calls, no emails, no visitors, and the postman didn't have anything for me today: the family, that I used to be a part of, have forgotten me, as have the friends I thought would always be there. This is my 20th solitary birthday, but I have become used to it and now it doesn't bother me, it really doesn't. I will be taking my dog out for a longer walk after lunch and then I will make us a nice meal before settling down to watch some TV. I didn't ever expect to be so isolated in my later years, but it's not as bad as you might think, I'm still very active and I enjoy life immensely. However, I do sometimes wonder how I came to be the solitary person I am, I guess it must be me, after all, the others can't all be wrong, can they?
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Belated birthday greetings. You are obviously internet savvy. Use these skills to google U3A. You will find a host of like minded folk all in the same boat, all having found the U3A found each other. Do it now!
This site can be esteamly slow , I hope you have found some one to chat too , good luck .
I am always happy to chat with most People & help out if I can.
Regards
Steve.
It's been 10 years now and I can go for weeks without talking to another person other than saying thank you in the newsagents when I pay for my newspaper.
I have even started using the self serve checkouts in the supermarket so I don't speak to anyone there either, other than cursing when the stupid machine keeps telling me to do things and hurrying me up haha.
I think the longer you are alone you lose the habit of making conversation and chatting to people which can just exacerbate things and now if I see someone approaching who I might have spoken to in the past I cringe and find myself making excuses not to stop.
It's not healthy apparently and isolation and loneliness are as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day, but it seems to become ingrained and a hard habit to break, despite feeling lonely.
Oh well, at least I have control of the tv remote control lol.
Or, could you join a ramblers group,many of them will have dogs too and both you and your pooch would love it.
If you have a village pub, I would pluck up the courage and pop in one evening, order a drink (it doesn't have to be alcoholic) and smile, try chatting to people and you might make a friend.
Hwl fawr.
Admittedly, they don't go up on the hill as I do with my dog, they wander 100 metres down the lane, pause to allow their dogs to do what dogs do, then wander back. Not very exciting, but sometimes I would enjoy the chat.
Then, on Sunday evening, another two neighbours emerged in their finery for a meal and drinks in a pub restaurant, again they didn't invite me. It suddenly occurred to me that I have almost become invisible and that no-one notices me, which is a difficult thing to deal with for someone who is naturally gregarious and sociable.
I'm now wondering if this is my lot, between now and my date with the crematorium?
I think that I must look like someone not to get too close to, could it be my deodorant?
We're all different aren't we so who cares if we don't crave lots of company all the time as long as we're happy with our lives. Like you I keep busy and volunteer with a couple of dog rescues(dogs being my passion) but I 'm always glad to get home, close my front door and luxuriate in my own company.
I have spent many years alone on my birthday as my husband has always worked away from home for 3/4wks at a time & I too have become used to it. While living here in France I have tried to make friends but unless you belong to the English church here the English ex-pats don't want to know you !!!
Nobody phones me either - except husband 3 or 4 times a day. My sister never bothers. No letters anymore= Does anybody want a big drawer full of stationary ?!!! I used to write a lot of letters but nobody bothers anymore because its easier to Email. One day there will be nothing for young people to look back on from descendants.
I will stop before I bore you silly....I will end by saying - NO, its not you at all, although I can't pin point a reason/ cause/ answer to the dilemma ! Best wishes...SJV.
I am also soon to be. 58 if my two sons didn't live with me I would
be in your position. Happy belated birthday!
My sons live with me because of financial issues otherwise I'm
sure I would not speak or see many people.
Chel57.