Hello - looking for like minded friends to chat with
Watch this postHey, just new to the group, I’m 50, female, and new to a town where I know no one... just looking for people to chat to
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i have completely given up on finding new genuine lady friends to chat with and see if things developed
have other members been a victim to the same situation?
Thanks for your reply, sadly only you can decide what is the best thing to do, but you could always give it a go , and if you get replies then its a bonus, but if you don't, then nothing lost
I too have done the same as you, but I still keep trying
on another tack ,i have used many dating sites and met a couple of ladies, but sadly they have had unhappy past lives, with men and are so hurt or damaged that they believe that all men are the same,
I have also found that some dating site profiles are fake, for various reasons
which of course is not always true
Please feel free to chat with me, no strings attached, its a very lonely world out there on your own. i had been on my own over 25 years, and it does not get easier
take care Mr Chipps
want, or need a man in my life, I much prefer horses. I finally realised ,that I was either good at picking bad men ..or bad at picking good men . ,so I stopped,
It's a decider ,if you are lonely .... or alone .. Being alone is not a bad thing ,choices about
everything are all in your hands ,being lonely .is easily solved .I just go somewhere ,anywhere .and there is always someone who you can start a conversation with ..except today ,I am really in Lock down with snow ,masses of it. car was to have it's MOT but I
cancelled it when i looked out .
Don't know if you like poetry ,but there quite a few of mine on the literature bit ,,some of them should make you smile
I gather that you need a woman in your life ,probably a tad like rocking horse manure .
non existent . I enjoy talking to people . especially on here ,,I don't have to do anything ,,but talk
thanks for your message about loneliness and the cure being in a persons own hands!!!
on this i have to disagree with you, because several times, i like you have gone out and spoken to people in cafes and parks etc, sometimes it was positive, but several other times have been negative and left me feeling like a leper, wishing that i had not bothered and stopped at home
i have also gone on coach holidays and been made to feel very unwelcome, and the more it happens, the more it makes a person feel bad?
i find that things can be worse with couples, who think that i am simply on the pull, like all single men
. i was once accused of that by a doctor of Sociology at university,
(she finished up being told she was a SEXIST BITCH) by the other university students in the group i was a member of. i know from experience that single women are more readily accepted than men are, for several reasons
you and i probably have very different circumstances in our lives, that have led to us being on our own.
it does not bother me ,that you compare horses to men and prefer horses, i personally dont like horse as i am afraid of them!
yes i love poetry and have also got some of my poems on the culture section of this site
my biggest success was to have 4 poems, about !organ donation" displayed in Cape town South Africa , for over 2 years. i stopped counting when iI reached over 2000 poems.
I have hobbies, but as a person i am a social animal and love company and meeting people, but after 25 years on my own, i still feel lonely and like company, either as companions or in a meaningful relationship
Best wishes Mr Chipps1
I`m a fairly new member and a bit pathetic at finding my way around anything new. I replied to many of the posts, but have had only a few responses. I`ve also suggested several topics, but again with limited interest. Anyhow. Look. I`ve responded to you. Now it`s up to you.
i purposely didnt ask Adriana how she can live without a man in her life, because her comment made it plain that she sees men as being demeaning, inferior and less important than men?
i accept her decision and will leave it at that?
I often wonder what the creators of some sites are thinking when they design them, probably that everyone is the same and sees and thinks as they do. when i create my poetry i do what my heart and mind tells me, and do not think of future readers needs lol
I’m sorry to hear about your wife passing. It can be a very difficult situation to navigate. I am 69 and have been divorced for 4 years after a marriage of 46 years.
I’m lucky my 2 daughters live in town. Six grandchildren keep me running, especially the 3 year old.
Knee surgery for me on September 19, my daughter is staying with me to help.
I try to stay busy, water aerobics and a little flower gardening, but sometimes it isn’t enough.
Life is too short to let yourself be unhappy.
I’m around most days, especially while convalescing. I’d be glad to chat with you.
Thank you for writing. Good luck with your knee surgery. Are you getting a knee replacement? My brothers have both had knee replacement surgery, and two sisters in law as well. They recovered well, and are glad they did it. My hip replacement went well also. I had it done at the VA Hospital in Omaha (I’m a retired US Army soldier).
Getting old is not for the faint of heart. I spent yesterday cleaning out the she-shed. Painting the concrete floor of the she-shed was the last project Alisa planned. She bought the paint in summer 2022, but didn’t feel well enough to do it. This should have clued me in that something was wrong, but it didn’t. She never started a project without finishing it. On January 25, 2023 she was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer. She died on March 4, 2023…five days before her 62nd birthday. We were married 25 years. I promised her I would care for our kitties Star and Luna, so my life these days revolves around them.
I hope your surgery goes well. The 19th—next Thursday— I’ll be thinking about you.
Dennis
I agree with you I cannot find a actual chat place.
I am new looking for some new friends. Female live in Chicago IL. Where are you from? Would love to hear from you.
Mark
Would be nice to chat sometime!
m gonna make Ice cream tomorrow!
Say hello if you live in the North of England.
I’m male, 71. I live in Kansas, The Land of Oz. I’m far from Chesterfield, but at least I don’t smoke. I hope you had a nice weekend.
Dennis
How very nice to meet you. The weather is cool in Kansas. I’ve been using the wood stove to heat the house. I haven’t turned the propane on yet. The cats love to sit in front of the fire. I hope you have a wonderful weekend.
Dennis