Should we abandon marriage?
Watch this postMarriage is quite unnatural as people are neither emotionally, nor, psychologically programmed to stay with the same person for decades. The fact that more than half of marriages end in divorce bears this out. Is it now time to call for an end to this silly tradition?
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And, calling marriage an 'institution' makes it sound very unnatural, as indeed it is, why would anyone in their right mind want to spend the rest of their life with the same person?
Love might be ancillary, but it certainly isn't vital.
As for the apparent fragile nature of love...that it can actually DIE...am still trying to get my head around THAT little snippet. I thought it was as perennial as the grass. One can strangle it...suffocate it...suppress it...deny that it was ever there...glue a stick of dynamite to it, and try to blow it up. But, it can never be killed.
I rest my case. Amen.
Love does die. I have a daughter who robbed me 7 years ago, she is the most unpleasant, deceitful person I have ever known. I woke up one morning and realised I no longer love her.
I have never know sexual/ relationship love, and I wonder how anyone can claim to be 'in love.'
I have known plenty of 'lusty' relationships, is that the same as love?
But it's a new world and finding the right person that you can trust with your life and your money may be getting more difficult. People are becoming more full of self interest.
But I think most people would want to have that special someone who will be there for them till death do you part.
That may not fit for everyone. But if it became the norm to have no marriage, and people to have 3 or 4 relationships over their lifetime, would we then have children with the same mother but different fathers and less divorce but more court battles over custody or maintenance payments.
What happens when your true love comes home blootered, develops halitosis, puts on 5 stones in weight, spends most of his time with his pigeons, and dresses like a scarecrow, do you still love him?
I think that married people just lack the courage to stand on their own 2 feet, they are too scared too scared of being alone.
I don't get home blooted and haven't put on 5 stone in weight. I consider myself to be of athletic physique. I don't have pigeons and would you believe I don't like football either. Though I do have a pint ort two.
We do things together as well as separately with our pals.
Usually before I go out on my own I ask for approval of the way I'm dressed. I want my wife to be pleased she has a smart husband. On many occasions I've been described as dapper in my dress.
In my career I was in structural engineering, I was a travelling man. So we spent quite a lot of time separated.
We are into our 57th year and still happy, even if I do like to flirt a little.
Marriage is a choice two people make.
In my teens a lot of marriages were because of whups!
Why call an end to it, maybe your statistics are correct but on the day there are two very happy people. Don't forget the beer later.
There are other creatures in nature that partner up for life, though I haven't seen them get married or divorced.
Marriage, and long term painful marriage specifically, is both unnatural and unnecessary.
Being married isn't living, it's existing in a fog of misery, having to deal with the farts and the soiled underwear of someone who treats you like a slave, but who you 'claim' to be in love with.
Give me the single life, thank you.