Lonely and vulnerable and looking to chat
Watch this postI’m alone, I have no family support or friends.
I’m sad to think that I have two neighbours both know that I’m alone and disabled yet not one of them has even put a note through my door to ask if I’m ok , what happened to community support!!
Has Scotland just decided to look after number one??
I would appreciate it if I just had someone to talk to 😢
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I hope you get this message as I have only just joined silversurfers and not sure if it works.
It maybe that your neighbours are not ignoring you but are frightend of spreading the damn virus. It worries me a lot.
I think a lot of people are feeling lonely and vulnerable now. I know I am.
I too live alone and have been a prisoner in my tiny bungalow since 9th March. I miss having someone to talk to but I have lived alone for the last 9 years.so I am used to it mostly
First things first, are you getting food delivered and any medication you need.
Do you have a garden you can get out to.
Today for the first time I went out and sat in the sun in my tiny little garden which is so overgrown. Its nice to see the weeds growing and the birds chirping.
Wish I could help more
Ive just come in as my hair is so long now Im going to use one of those electric hair shavers. Trouble is its a dog one with individual combs for dfferent hair lengths, Do you think I should go for a Spaniel look or Jack Russel.
Do you read or like music. Ive just started reading again after a break of a couple of years or so. As for music I listen to my YouTube playlist and in my mind travel off to different places and times.
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I have just read your message and you seem such a caring and compassionate person as I was reading your post...but I had to tell you what a good laugh I have had this morning as I wasn't expecting the humour!
Firstly, it would appear your hair had grown in the time it had taken to enjoy the growth & birdsong in the garden.....then come the cutters & then I was 'howling' by the time you mention dog cutters ( I hope you have a gig....or perhaps a dog-grooming business at least....to own such a contraption!)
Now if you have curly hair...you could sport the latest architectural poodle-cut!
Thank you Alain for my morning quota of fun. It is important to have some sense of humour...times are dire and testing right now!
Enjoy you day..and your new 'do'
I did cut my hair. I had to as it was so long I could have put it in a short pony tail or even more disturbingly bunches either side of my head.
I feel a lot better with it shorter despite feeling colder in the neck region.
I decided that I would poke my nose out of the front door yesterday. I’m lucky as my tiny bungalow is 1 of 9 in a little group.
There is a large communal garden so at 6.30 am I slipped on a pair of shorts and Tee shirt and went for a few laps walking round the garden. There was no one about and it was sunny and warm. It did feel good to be in "Outside World" again. and because its a private garden I wasn’t breaking curfew
I did meet one neighbour, and keeping a good distance apart, we discussed his plants in the garden as he said that "something" had been eating them.
Note to self. Make set of very large wooden Bear feet to make footprints into soil around his plants..
I’ve spent far too much time curled up on the sofa, eating things not good for me and watching Netflix,. so I need to get back in shape or at least some sort of shape.
I too have been at home alone throughout lockdown.....did wonder if I had the virus mid March as had sore throat, tickly cough and fatigue for two or three weeks. As a result stayed in and tried to rest more (garden on hold for a while!) but fear lack of exercise upset my legs - full of aches and pains...so now making myself walk round the village with the dogs...one at a time...as it is nice to get out for a while and never see many people anyway. Occasional trip to Click and Collect food is now a social event for me! Hang on in there all...it will hopefully get better soon......
Unfortunately our friend Alain is no longer on the site. We corresponded awhile and sadly he told me he had chosen to leave Silversurfers..
He said his 'goodbyes' on the 19th of June and you will see on his profile, there are no further posts after the above on the 23rd May,'20. He will be missed...for sure!
Just wanted to let you know...as it's a drag waiting for replies that mayn't be answered!
You however I see are new and I wish you well and "Welcome".
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Yes Bees was absolutely right. I had left the forum but left rapidly after making a fool of myself. I had left so quickly that I had not even deleted things or cancelled my account.
The only reason I came here today was after receiving notifications to my post. Plus Bees had sent me a Chat message which I was too frightened (cowardly) to read. If you chat with Bees she is very nice and caring but I didn’t realise it at the time.
Ive been in lockdown since 9 March. I did try going out in the communal garden but some of the other inmates that have homes here frighten me a little with their very loose idea of personal space.
Coincidentally I too became ill at the beginning and really thought I had the virus. I think it was stress related unless all this is the afterlife and I’m really dead. Or even worse and I’m in Limbo which means I’m going to have to spend eternity dancing under a stick. (Terry Pratchett)
Yes Bees was absolutely right. I had left the forum but left rapidly after making a fool of myself. I had left so quickly that I had not even deleted things or cancelled my account.
The only reason I came here today was after receiving notifications to my post. Plus Bees had sent me a Chat message which I was too frightened (cowardly) to read. If you chat with Bees she is very nice and caring but I didn’t realise it at the time.
I’ve been in lockdown since 9 March. I did try going out in the communal garden but some of the other inmates that have homes here frighten me a little with their very loose idea of personal space.
Coincidentally I too became ill at the beginning and really thought I had the virus. I think it was stress related unless all this is the afterlife and I’m really dead. Or even worse and I’m in Limbo which means I’m going to have to spend eternity dancing under a stick. (Terry Pratchett)
Bye for now Alain
Last week I was on a phone conversation and wanted to make a note of a number the caller had for me on my mobile. Marched around lounge, kitchen, bathroom and bedroom searching for mobile keeping up a running commentary with the caller about not finding my mobile and how important it is to me as it runs my life.
Suddenly realised the mobile was next to my ear as I was using it to talk to the caller.
(Haha!)
Have I ever told you that I have had luncheon with a certain Terry Pratchett ( in my role as School Librarian at King Arthur's School in Wincanton)
No,.. well it happened! 🙁
Just to notify you...as you need prompting...(It took over a month to find the last)...There is a 'chat' for you again...followed by another, to correct the first!
Isn’t it weird that if you look back, even as far back to when you were very young it is possible to see how your character was starting to be shaped even then? I have in conversations referred to my mind as a wooden cabinet with lots of drawers with thoughts and memories tucked away. Some small drawers, others deeper and harder to pull out to see what’s inside because when you closed them you hoped never to open them again. That’s of course if you want to look inside again. Some of those drawers when you open them make that terrible “skritching” noise like running your nails like a black board causing your teeth to go on edge as you remember the bad uncomfortable things.
Wow. The Master. Some people think the Discworld books are childish nonsense, I love them. He created a whole world that is totally weird but wonderful. Pure escapism for me.
I have read your latest chat and will reply soon as.
I'm a Companionship Therapist! I listen and support people who need to talk to somebody who will offer them a human perspective.
I would be so happy to talk 🙂
I'm on my own now in my 60's since my husband has been gone ... looking forward to chatting to everyone, but a little confused about the format not being in date order. It makes it very difficult to read and reply to post in chat
Anyone else finding difficulties
I was even more lonely when I was married than I am now on my own.
I would love to chat with anyone,
I am just here to make friends.
I certainly hear you when you say neighbors don't care. I am in the same boat as you.
I just recently rejoined this community hoping to have someone to chat with.
There seem to be so many that are terribly lonely with a lot of time on their hands.
including me.
I would be happy to chat with anyone. I love to type and miss not working but no one will hire an old lady even though my fingers still work fine, lol
I hope someone will reply
I'm a retired businessman who turned to Art as a Hobby, the cost of which I used to partially offset with a few sales, but nobody buys pictures anymore so chat is must now be my new hobby,
I must now learn how to navigate the forum, and where to post what,
I'll take care, but i'm sad to say "I've stopped painting".
It is truly outrageous that no one has reached out to offer support or check in on you, especially given your circumstances. You're right to feel upset about the lack of community support, and it's incredibly disheartening to hear that your neighbours have not stepped up to help.
It's unacceptable that the NHS and your GP have not provided the necessary support or resources to ensure your well-being. It is essential for both your physical and emotional health to have the opportunity to socialize and build connections with others, and the government should be doing more to ensure that people in your position have access to these opportunities.
No one should ever be left feeling so isolated and without support. It's unbelievable that, in this day and age, individuals in need are still slipping through the cracks. The community and the authorities should work together to make sure that everyone has the care and support they deserve.
In the meantime, please know that there are people out there who care and are willing to listen- even though we may be few and far between and not right next door to you, we're here from a distance. If I were nearby I'd say hi, but I'm in London- one of the loneliest cities in the world, where it gives the impression everyone seems to have friends except yourself & everyone appears to be just completely self-obsessed with no ability to see beyond themselves & their immediate needs or gratification.
Reply here if you can.. I'd love to hear an update & see how you're getting on...
Cheers
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I have got a lovely daughter but I don't want to burden her.
I’m coming to term with my loss but lm still having hard time it’s just a big learning curve but lm getting there and so will you . Thanks for your reply.
It was nice to see you had replied . I’m just trying to find out how to use this site better so we could have a longer chat if your up for that in private.
honestly lm just so sick of not going any where so looking forward to next Monday, do a bit of shopping and in a few weeks go for coffee or a beer . Anyway Margaret hope your doing well and your a bit like me just having a coffee will make a big difference.
Hope to hear from you soon take care .
I will try again and thanks for your reply Arthur
I'm getting through it day by day it takes time. I keep worrying about money can I afford to stay here usual things.. . I'm on messenger but they say never give it out. Go and have a coffee and rest lovely day. Margaret. Have you a e mail
That should be worryingabout things best wishes
saddened me to read that so many people are feeling lonely at this
time, I am single so have never lost a loving spouse so can't imagine
the loss you must feel. I am glad to see that you have had positive
responses from so many people. If you want another one my e-mail
address is overlander5@icloud.com. Please don't give up hope of
getting through your loss, and it looks like you have a loving daughter. I live in Southampton but have only been here for 7 months so have not had a chance to make any new friends yet.
Where do people of our age (73)go when most people are afraid
to go out in fear of covid. I love to travel and mostly go to East and
Southern Africa, am looking to go back to Cape Town in March or
April next year.Well I have gone on a bit longer than I thought I
would,,so will finish off for now, so take care and stay safe, best
wishes, Terry.
I have just come out of hospital due to kidney failure, but I am slowly picking up and can do things like empty the kitchen bin and put recycling items out.
I sit alone for many hours and often feel the need to just have a general chat with someone.
I have an 18 month old dog called Ruby and she is a reason to get up in the morning, and she gives me lots of love. I can’t walk her just now, but it’s something I’m working towards.
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I'm fairly new to SS.
How are you coping today? What part of Scotland you from? My mum came from Glasgow. I miss hearing the accent.
I understand where you are coming from as is a question I've often asked in past. But with all scare mongering that has been happening with government and covid people are afraid to 'interact' outside of their own home bubble with people.
I miss the interaction of people in passing and chatting. People I find don't want to stop but just to carry on walking. Unless you are at a bottle neck in the road where some just ignore you as are anxious to pass.
Here's hoping you've not disappeared off the forum!
I have no real close people to chat to....I can relate.
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Talk to me. I'm here. I live on the west coast of the US. I've had a lot of losses, and they sit with me. I'm trying to learn to better adjust my attitude. I'd like to give out my email address, but having just joined I'm not sure how safe it is to do that one this site.
There are so many here who need the support. If we come together we can ease the lonliness. Any one here who is feeling this way, please contact me. I can offer a digital shoulder.
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