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7th Jan 2024
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Lonely and vulnerable and looking to chatFriends, family and neighbours no longer know how to be friends, family or neighbours...it's just another tragedy of life in a modern world. The lonely ones are those who are the only ones who ever make phones ring. Loneliness is a ghost town, within us, full of staleness, due to the negligence and disregard of those we though better of, once, a long time ago.ViewDate:
4th Jun 2022 IanHaines commented on:
LonelinessI barely make it through feeling lonely. Coping isn't what I do...I resign myself to the knowledge that I am alone, and that I always will be. There are many reasons why that must be - almost all are medical and psychological. Nobody could ever convince me that they find feeling lonely survivable...it's barely tolerable, to me.ViewDate:
5th May 2022 IanHaines commented on:
People Have Forgotten How To Be Friends...Well, nothing much changed. Christmas 2021 was kinda good, but my Alone At Christmas Christmas hasn't change in decades and it's still my favourite time of the year - all that inner child excitement and the appeal of the Christmas Magicality, etc., make it a great time of year for me. Covid is still out there, still more rampant than the Media, or the Government, would have us believe, and I still can never again have company, which concept I'm becoming more adjusted to, I admit...it's still a weird thought, though. I'm hoping to get out for some overnight walks, this Summer, on the hottest of the nights, because those walks are like bliss, for me...getting out of this house. This time, I plan to take along a cigar and listen to music on my mobile phone, while seated in a silent, darkish field, and just...............loving the experience. However...I'll believe that happens just after it finishes happening!ViewDate:
24th Jan 2022 IanHaines commented on:
Just joined so I'm introducing myself.I think that people once knew how to be caring friends and family members, but that...every time we get yet another ten years since the end of World War 2, that admirable property in the people known to us...get less and less! People and family no longer know what being a family member even means. During my life, when a phone rings, it's because I just called somebody else...they never ring mine. When they need me for something, they're on the phone, then. Until then, everybody goes deathly silent and continue their impersonation of a Ghost Town! Friendships and family connections are doomed! (Great username, by the way!)ViewDate:
16th Jun 2021 IanHaines commented on:
Am I weird or what?I love that quietness and peacefulness. When nobody is around, that's the time I love best, for attempting to go out. It also means that there's less chance to catch something from all those folks not out there, anyway, which is always good.ViewDate:
14th Jun 2021 IanHaines commented on:
People Have Forgotten How To Be Friends...Never mind "Look to yourself, first - Judge your friends, second". I know what I'm talking about, with these people and you don't. I've had 30-50 years in which to watch their behaviour - towards me, and others who already agree with me. They are the ones letting the side/friendship down...it's not me. So, maybe, you need to drop being judgemental! As for, "Able to be non-judgmental."...you were judgemental about me when you decided to say that to me. If you don't like what I write, go and read something else!ViewDate:
2nd Jun 2021
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1st Jun 2021 IanHaines commented on:
People Have Forgotten How To Be Friends...There are so many complications to that, Dani...too many to make inroads into. Add agoraphobia, to Covid 19, to a damaged immune system, and social anxiety that is 3 feet taller than I am, and then...folk start to see how difficult it all is, for me. If I could "go for it", believe me...I would.ViewDate:
31st May 2021 IanHaines commented on:
People Have Forgotten How To Be Friends...There are so many complications to that, Dani...too many to make inroads into. Add agoraphobia, to Covid 19, to a damaged immune system, and social anxiety that is 3 feet taller than I am, and then...folk start to see how difficult it all is, for me. If I could "go for it", believe me...I would.ViewDate:
29th May 2021
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29th May 2021 IanHaines commented on:
I'm a newbieThis forum totally baffles me. I didn't even know these replies were here. Thanks, to those who replied to me.ViewDate:
11th Feb 2020 IanHaines commented on:
I'm a newbieThe overnight hours are torture. The silence is awful. I live alone and I'm housebound with agoraphobia - 22 years, now! I have no way to make friends. I have nothing I'd usually call friends, now, because they have little/no idea how to be real friends...they just think that they know. The real type of friend seemed to die off around 40 years ago. Now, people just fake being friends, and my phone never rings, but they always ring me if they.......have a problem. Family is out, for me, because my family is as dysfunctional as I am and overnight?...nobody thanks you for calling them. I'd be more likely to get my head bitten off for phoning family on such terribly lonely nights. I wish computers could "magic" up new friends for me and get them to knock on my door!
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