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Just joined so I'm introducing myself.

I will be 67 next month and retired from the many different jobs in my working life. I guess that I didn’t ever find my calling. I went to university at age 59 but when it was over it was too late to launch a new career. I wanted to lecture but students don’t want to listen to old fogies, so sadly I put aside that idea and settled into life as an eccentric dog owner.

I live in a beautiful Lancashire valley surrounded by hills that demand they be walked/climbed, how could I refuse?

I would like to do a bit of cycle touring but a recent diagnosis of spondylosis and some hip pain means that I may not be doing a world tour anytime soon!

I’m keen to make some friends as I have been on my own for a very long time now, my daughters don’t bother much with me and I don’t have a partner.I didn’t expect to be so isolated at this time in my life, isn’t it strange the way family and friends seem to forget us when we get past 60?

I will pop in regularly and hope to strike up some friendships.


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sandra485
7th May 2021 18:13:07 (Last activity: 23rd May 2021 13:25:30)
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Hi I noticed that your post dated 2015 so not sure is you are still interested in chatting with anybody
My name is Sandra and I’m 71 and I live up in the Pennines in Lancashire and one of my biggest joy is walking my dog Ellie
I’m a carer for my husband who is had several strokes
Sandra
Response from Trillium made on 7th May 2021 20:43:23
Sandra
People get lost on this site and so there are many old messages that go unanswered. There should be less categories and a better way to get around the site and find your way back to the messages you responded to.
Response from Alfred6 made on 8th May 2021 10:30:54
Would like to start correspondence with you.....if agreeable..

regards,

Al
Response from sandra485 made on 8th May 2021 11:54:36 > @Trillium
I am glad I am not the only one
It is a interesting site but
Response from sandra485 made on 8th May 2021 12:01:57 > @Alfred6
Not sure if this is a forum site or one to one chat
I haven’t really got to grips with it yet
A general pen friend...as longs as there are no debates etc
I am easygoing...I think
I have just updated my profile
Response from sandra485 made on 14th May 2021 17:32:08 > @Trillium
Trillium
It confused me with the dates
Hope you have a good day
Sandra
Response from Trillium made on 15th May 2021 04:54:46 > @Alfred6
Hi There Alfred6
Not sure if you were referring to Sandra 485 or Trillium to correspond with so I thought I would just write ....
I live in the heart of downtown Toronto on the shores of Lake Ontario. I am retired and enjoy the free time that it affords me to travel, except of course during the Pandemic. We have been in lockdown as long as I can remember, but thankfully we can travel within Canada and it’s a big country. Love both the west and east coast ... each very different and each absolutely breathtaking.
Cheers,
Anna
Response from sandra485 made on 15th May 2021 21:58:47 > @Alfred6
Hi have you found somebody to chat to
I do find this site a bit confusing
Sandra
Response from Novram made on 21st May 2021 17:00:06 > @Trillium
I agree with you Trillium. The site is confusing. I'm a retired PC tech in Maryland, U.S. I use to work on computers for a living and I get lost on some of these web pages too.
Response from Codymitz made on 21st May 2021 20:49:05 > @Trillium
I totally agree. There are far too many options and so many old messages. I’ve just started here but once I write something I can’t get back to the same but the next day. Just full of folk introducing themselves
Response from Ariadne made on 22nd May 2021 10:02:06 > @Trillium
Hello fellow lost souls !!!! I have been wandering this maze for years .I find someone I could enjoy getting to know ,and they disappear, probably in the same maze .Very frustrating, and so I don't bother,for while ,Maybe if SALLY. the owner read all the posts on this subject .from LOTS of us she,might do some directions.for us ,
Or, she might enjoy seeing us all flounder .if on the off chance anyone would like to chat , I'm here !!!!!! Waiting !!!!!
Response from Ariadne made on 22nd May 2021 10:24:30 > @sandra485
Hi Sandra ,from over the border . this just might be our lucky day to start ,and keep in touch, fingers crossed
Response from sandra485 made on 22nd May 2021 17:38:10 > @Ariadne
Hi sandra here...
This is a really difficult sight to navigate
But hopefully I am responding to you.. over the border in Scotland
I am In Lancashire
I did think of contacting Sally but let’s see how this goes
It will be great chatting I could bit irregular with replies but I will reply
Sandra
Response from Codymitz made on 23rd May 2021 13:25:30 > @Ariadne
I could not agree more. It’s really disappointing because it seems so many people really do just want to chat and state they are having similar issues. Sometimes a chat is all they want. Once you say hello you can’t find the same spot again. Frustrating It’s full of folk saying exactly the same thing so you have to ask why it’s not being addressed
Charlesb
18th May 2021 21:21:19
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Hi Celtwitch and I am Charles welcome to the site. Interesting introduction you have. Hope you some friends.
Midnight cowboy
17th May 2021 23:12:40 (Last activity: 18th May 2021 16:00:59)
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Hi , hope you are remaing positive ! I am a widower , lots of health issues but do not dwell on them , my kids have flown the nest , I am happy to chat , I am a good listener ,
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Response from PatriciaB96 made on 18th May 2021 16:00:59
Good afternoon midnight cowboy welcome to the site
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14th May 2021 14:30:02 (Last activity: 14th May 2021 15:03:02)
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PatriciaB96
11th May 2021 18:15:33
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Good evening, and welcome to all new members to the site, I hope you will all make new friends here.
GrahamD95
8th May 2021 10:16:20
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Agreed - I am new to this site and would like to contribute. I have made several comments but can never find responses if any.
kate6855
5th May 2021 20:54:36 (Last activity: 7th May 2021 13:22:39)
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I have never tried this but it seemed interesting. I am a retired nurse. I find since I retired I am alone alot and sometimes it is fine, but sometimes I just want to interact with people around my age.
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Response from TopsyTurvey made on 7th May 2021 12:42:20
Hi Kate Ive just joined and Ive just retired too and to be honest Im feeling a bit lost too! My son left home in February and although he doesnt live too far away I try not to interfere! So Im rattling around on my own with a long list of jobs to do in my head but most of all am missing some friendly chat.
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Countrygirlblues
7th Apr 2021 15:18:26 (Last activity: 2nd May 2021 12:22:25)
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Good afternoon,
First time on here, I thought i would say Hi and see what follows. I'm 57 semi retired. Been at home for the last year with covid lockdown just like everyone else. Lucky to have family living with me so has been easier on me then a lot of others I know. Although we all caught Covid 19 and i had to spend 3 weeks in hospital. We have recovered thankfully. I am looking to make friends to open my circle of friends. You find that when you go out to work you leave the house early and return late so you don't really get a chance to chat with neighbours etc especially in winter you just want to get in and shut the door. Well I thought this may be the place to find like minded people, who have a little more time on their hands. It would be nice to have a chat over a coffee on here. I am happily married with 3 grown children and one lovely 8 yr old granddaughter. So please say hello next time your on and i look forward to making some new friends. I hope you all have a good week ahead of you.
Response from Caroleharper2 made on 7th Apr 2021 15:49:26
Hello there
Well I am now totally retired and have managed to stay fairly sane over the last 12 months ... I
Two super daughters, son in laws and grandchildren too.
Must have done something right!
It’s good to chat so whenever you have a few minutes.....
I don’t reply in minutes so do please bear with me..... I am usually on the run still
Response from Countrygirlblues made on 7th Apr 2021 16:05:16 > @Caroleharper2
Hi Caroleharper2,
Thank you for saying hi, I look forward to chatting .
Response from simbadog made on 8th Apr 2021 18:54:26
Hi and welcome to the site Countrygirlblues.
I'm married and semi retired living in Menorca. Been here for some 17 years and love life in the Mediterranean. Have 2 daughters living in the UK but unfortunately like so many haven't seen them for many months but hope that a light will be at the end of the tunnel soon. Keep active, love walking and volunteer at the local animal shelter a few times a week walking dogs, visiting cats etc. Have a dog and 2 stray cats that turned up on my on my doorstep. I am ex Royal Air Force so have travelled a fair amount and also lived all over the UK before moving to Spain.
Please get in touch if you fancy a chat.

Regards

Simbadog
Response from yatesy made on 9th Apr 2021 05:47:14 > @simbadog
Hi simbadog and how is Menorca coping with covid? - I live in a small township of 9000 and we have never had a hint of the damned virus!
Response from Countrygirlblues made on 11th Apr 2021 14:25:19 > @simbadog
Good afternoon Simbadog,
Menorca lucky you, We have the North sea on our doorstep which is cold. We have to have a good few months of sun to warm our sea up. We had good weather last year and i did go swimming with our granddaughter last summer but will be a while longer before we do that again. I hope you have or will have the vaccine soon so normality does return. My family are waiting on our 2nd jabs by mid May we hope. I bet you have a lot of stories adventures you can talk about all the travelling you must of done in the Air Force. One of the reality tv shows was based in Menorca and it looked stunning, I haven't been there but my husband and i said we liked the idea of visiting it someday after seeing it. Well i had better get on with sorting out the Sunday Roast. I look forward to hearing from you again soon, Have a great week as best we can now a days.

Regards
Countrygirlblues
Response from simbadog made on 11th Apr 2021 15:51:53 > @yatesy
Hi Yatesy

We have had no where near the infection rate as the Spanish Peninsula.
Went into a nationwide strict lock down March last year for a couple of months and then went through the summer with relaxed restrictions to enable something of a tourist season.
We are still on restrictions, nothing as strict as the UK are now emerging from though. The UK are definitely ahead of the game with the vaccine the roll out here and around Europe has been much slower.
Stay safe
Response from StuartEngland made on 2nd May 2021 12:22:25 > @Caroleharper2
Hi, I have been registered here for a while but havent been online much and am not the most tech savvy person 🙂 this is just to say hello and that I too am looking to find people to chat with every now and then so if anybody would like to make a good friend and maybe have a few laughs here and there let me know.
GrahamD95
2nd May 2021 09:59:01 (Last activity: 2nd May 2021 10:00:40)
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Hi Celtwitch

If you want to cycle but concerned about achieving any distance, had you thought of an electric bike? I bought one a few years back and enjoy the security of being able to start the motor in a headwind or going up hills. I also joined a local cycling club that does evening social rides - they can go faster on the flat but I am the champion on the slopes! Locally, there are a number of senior groups that go out during the day with differing routes for various levels of 'keenness'. They usually have a break at a cafe mid-way through.
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minimitts
30th Apr 2021 16:27:56 (Last activity: 30th Apr 2021 16:56:08)
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hiya everyone not been insilversurfers for a long time,lookint to meet friends
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Debbydoo
29th Apr 2021 21:10:22 (Last activity: 29th Apr 2021 23:34:36)
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Hey...Hope your well and surviving covid,just got my first vaccine,doing okay but its a nasty bruise,,,Gosh i hope this summer we can all be "Maskless!" And finally put all this past us! I am a 64 year old who will hit the milestone of 65 in the coming months,not thrilled years seemed to have rushed by ,loosing this past yeat didnt help matters! I live in the states,no the Uk,in a area outside of chicago,Il.I enjoy hearing about the UK because sometimes I believe you have your lives way more together then people here! Its been a lonely covid year, have no family left,no partner,about the only good to come out of 2020,was my writing skills awaken again! Been writing on and off since age nine,where I baically told off a animal abuser! {I adore all animals!} Right now Im under the huge task of writing my memoir of life experiences which is scary and enligtening at the same time.Hoping for a 65th birthday goal to finish,a gift to myself,then will see if any publisher thinks it stands a chance,here's hoping!! I also love music,singing along,reading bios,movies,way too addicted to netflix/hulu,discussing past travels with others,and more then anything,just enjoy chatting with good,kind hearted people on most subjects,We're living in a time when we can all use a new friend to chat with! Hope to hear from you till then stay safe!Debby
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DaveEllerby
26th Apr 2021 12:09:35
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So it’s here I’m supposed to post up some biographical stuff, a few pix, some pithy or interesting sayings, statements, recipes, unusual guitar chords, fave CD’s/downloads , jokes , things not to buy, places not to go, positive information concerning goodness knows what from who knows where about

Seems like a good place to stop if you ask me.

Apart from being a counsellor, clinical supervisor, coach, retired NHS pharmacist, husband, parent, grandparent, friend, opponent, stumbling block and general irritant to certain sections of the public and officialdom…I also enjoy all music except C&W & Opera, playing guitar, reading, cooking, eating, evading the washing up, doing the washing up, cinema, shouting at the tv during the news and sports, flying [ as in paying someone else to convey me from Point A to B ], holidays, hanging out with my church pals and other sundry mates, cars and driving round the lovely countryside where I live...Morayshire….in fact driving anywhere.. narrow boating, and lastly spending quality time with my wife, and family ie. two daughters + sons in law + three grandsons. Now 65 and counting, perhaps laid back to the point of indifferent complacency. Really enjoy my therapy career, and the folks I work with.
TerryO
23rd Apr 2021 23:02:09
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Hi Always happy to chat
SeaStar
26th Mar 2021 04:25:33 (Last activity: 22nd Apr 2021 11:02:26)
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Where does one start? Time takes us all on different paths and some choices are not ending at the destination we hoped. Life has taken me to live on a sailboat, to a ranch with horses and the country life, along with many other wonderful adventures in between. Now is the time where we find ourselves and friends living in different towns and families involved in their own lives.

I would love to meet new friends and find new interests to fill the days ahead. My pets are great friends but I must admit it is a one-sided conversation. With Covid on the rampage getting out and about is not what it used to be. I must admit it is difficult to attract the attention of a potential new friend by holding up a sign that reads.."Hello, if you want to be friends~Please walk by and hold up a new message next time you pass by." The return messages were not what I had hoped for.

Enough of the nonsense..I will check in to see from time to time..

signing out~ SeaStar
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Response from Caroleharper2 made on 7th Apr 2021 16:14:23
Hi there it’s true as we grow up (not necessarily older) our families fly away and have their own lives but it’s our time now and there is lots of good stuff to find out there.
So spread your wings and see what happens, lots of lovely people are waiting to hear from you
Sounds like you have had an interesting life so far, so what’s next?
Hope to speak soon
Response from Billythequiche made on 22nd Apr 2021 11:02:26
Hi SeaStar,
Cannot guarantee finding a BFF or even a BFG, but I suggest you cast your eye over Speakers Corner. Your opinion is as valid as anyone else's and it IS interesting reading other viewpoints, sometimes it confirms yours and sometimes it encourages you to revalidate. There are no taboos and providing you stay within very generous limits on decency and legality, rant to your hearts content or absorb others ranting.
Coming out of lockdown is a real prospect. Some people have had a much harder time than others but it has highlighted that tomorrow is unknown and unknowable, especially if you have far more years behind you than in front of you. My philosophy now is: if you think it now, say it; if you want it now, get it if possible; if you fancy it, do it.
Loneliness is cruel and with modern media more easily avoided.
Good luck getting what you seek.
yatesy
9th Apr 2021 05:44:04
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Hi yatesy here got so many names now on sites I get confused! - retired counsellor in addiction work ; mental health etc and living in the top end of western australia. jut had first covid jab astra zenaca - no ill effects heh! - used to play sax and clarinet in a band and now look after two dogs a cat and me! - living in a small forest of 8 acres surrounded by wallabies; parrots; goannas etc
flojojo
19th Mar 2021 18:06:06 (Last activity: 7th Apr 2021 16:20:48)
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Hi, I’m looking to make new friends and chat. I’m 66 years old, recently retired, which was bad timing due to COVID, but hey ho must not complain. Lots of interests ie reading, cooking, travel, films/dramas, family, my rescue dog and making new friends. Here’s hoping
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 24th Mar 2021 12:50:46
Good afternoon flojojo to the site , and welcome, I hope you will make lots of new friends
Response from flojojo made on 26th Mar 2021 12:00:55 > @PatriciaB96
Hi Patricia, thank you for your comment, I hope to make friends, but at the moment I’m finding my way around the site. If ever you fancy a chat please stop me a line, it would be lovely to hear from you. My name is Jocelyn by the way. Take care and stay safe
Response from Caroleharper2 made on 7th Apr 2021 15:59:37
Hi FloJo
From another retiree
I retired a few years ago and after filling my time with volunteering opportunities, due to COVID the activities have basically ceased.
However I am still with a lovely group and we visit/phone whatever we can currently..... lovely old folk who are isolated for various reasons.
This has been a real boost for me and I am looking forward to developing these friendships soon.
Hope you have managed to find things to do too?
Response from flojojo made on 7th Apr 2021 16:20:48 > @Caroleharper2
Hi
Lovely to hear from you
My retirement was really bad timing as we went into a Tier 4 lockdown, so not seeing family, friends or anything. As of the this week we are allowed to meet in groups of 6 in the garden or parks etc., then on the 12th we can move more freely round the country and all the shops that have not been open will do so and you can meet in a pub garden
I’m seeing my eldest daughter tomorrow, the first time in months, I can’t wait.
I have managed to fill my time reading, quizzes, music and watching TV, dramas, true stories and films
I did some volunteer work before, I befriended a 90-year-old gentleman and that was lovely, so I’m hoping come June if things go in the right direction, I can think about doing something like that
If ever you fancy a chat, I’m here, I love chatting
Regards
Jocelyn
MimiM
7th Apr 2021 03:55:46
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Hi Celtwtch
You have a fascinating username… I love it. Where does it come from? I would gladly be your friend. I’m slowly finding out in my Covid world, that my online friends are starting to mean a lot to me.
I am 70, and I am very happily divorced. I’m a very positive person for the most part… I could probably lift your spirits in a few minutes… Have social worker to my career, there’s nothing I haven’t heard… You can tell me anything… If you’re interested…
Ell1e
4th Apr 2021 13:44:21 (Last activity: 4th Apr 2021 15:22:06)
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Hi Celtwitch. Ever thought of joining the WI if you have any near you? They are absolutely not Jam and Jerusalem any more. I've made lots of good friends since we started one up in my village. People I didn't know and I've lived here 30 years!
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SENIORSASS
3rd Apr 2021 00:54:58 (Last activity: 3rd Apr 2021 08:00:34)
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LOVE TO CHAT- QUITE AN ANGLOPHILE EVEN THROUGH OVER THE POND!
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PatriciaB96
31st Mar 2021 20:25:39
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