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Just joined so I'm introducing myself.

I will be 67 next month and retired from the many different jobs in my working life. I guess that I didn’t ever find my calling. I went to university at age 59 but when it was over it was too late to launch a new career. I wanted to lecture but students don’t want to listen to old fogies, so sadly I put aside that idea and settled into life as an eccentric dog owner.

I live in a beautiful Lancashire valley surrounded by hills that demand they be walked/climbed, how could I refuse?

I would like to do a bit of cycle touring but a recent diagnosis of spondylosis and some hip pain means that I may not be doing a world tour anytime soon!

I’m keen to make some friends as I have been on my own for a very long time now, my daughters don’t bother much with me and I don’t have a partner.I didn’t expect to be so isolated at this time in my life, isn’t it strange the way family and friends seem to forget us when we get past 60?

I will pop in regularly and hope to strike up some friendships.


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Cameraman
2nd Feb 2017 23:12:23
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Just joined tonight so here is a little about myself ...
I am a retired Chef married and with family who have now flew the nest so we are free to persue our passion and hobby for us both which is traveling around Scotland and the Hebrides with our two Border Terrier dogs photographing birds and wildlife with some beautiful Hebridien landscapes.

Hope there are more forum members with similar likes .
Response from CaroleAH made on 3rd Feb 2017 17:36:10
Welcome Cameraman - looking forward to seeing photos of the Hebrides .... and your hounds! Super way to spend your retirement.
finn456
2nd Nov 2024 09:28:29 (Last activity: 2nd Nov 2024 12:41:22)
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Welcome Allisonangel, I am new too
Response from WhiteCrow made on 2nd Nov 2024 10:51:35
Welcome finn,
My goodness finn456, your photo looks exactly like Michael Grant - Captain - DFDS Logistics Special Cargo/ Linkedin

and amazingly, exactly like micheal willson1029@instagram (Fotos: Lars S.) - page 1 - Fake Profile - Fake - Scam - Fraud - Info.

It seems you have a couple of doppelgangers out there in the ether. 🙂
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 2nd Nov 2024 12:41:22
Welcome to all new members, I hope you will like being here , many nice people here to chat too .
ladybabe
5th Jul 2024 13:33:24
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Is it too late for us to become friends .
HappyHippie1962
2nd Jul 2024 09:22:34 (Last activity: 4th Jul 2024 14:46:28)
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New so still working it all out 🙂 Hello from the southwest of Scotland 🙂
Response from Baileybird11 made on 2nd Jul 2024 16:30:21
Hi from Manchester, England
Response from HappyHippie1962 made on 2nd Jul 2024 21:43:49 > @Baileybird11
Thank you
Response from Beauty made on 4th Jul 2024 14:46:28
Hi Surrey based Great site, just need to persevere.
AngieG1
17th Apr 2024 02:00:32 (Last activity: 17th Apr 2024 21:01:35)
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Hello my first time here and was reading your post. I am married but my husband works late my daughter moved out three months ago. I still work alit but have several days and hours alone. I haven’t joined any groups yet and o trying hobbies in the evenings. But I’m still very lonely. I don’t have friends that are like everyday friends. Only social once in a while get together. I miss my daughter. She doesn’t call much I only see her if I call her tell her to come over for her hills or dinner etc. I’m looking for friends to chat with and even go do things with it’s hurtful and depressing when your kids get grown independent and don’t want to come around and even worse with no friends. To talk to. I know everyone says but you have your husband but sometimes women need women friends or male. We need other people to talk to.
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 17th Apr 2024 21:01:35
Good evening and welcome to the site, I hope you will find lots of friends, there are many nice people on here and lots to chat
happydays75
14th Feb 2024 15:58:28 (Last activity: 2nd Apr 2024 19:25:03)
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recently widowed age 75
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 16:04:50
Sorry for your loss. It takes time to get through it…not over it, just through it. It is said that it takes about 1/3 the number of years together for the healing process to start. So don't think that there's something wrong with you if the process takes a while it's not moribund mourning.... it's actually quite normal.
Bless you
Response from ThelmaM9 made on 2nd Apr 2024 19:25:03
Hi there, I'm also recently widowed, very suddenly in January not easy is it? I have good days and bad, the evenings are the worst I find.
Scotsfemale 54
24th Mar 2024 21:45:48 (Last activity: 27th Mar 2024 20:51:26)
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Hiya, Im female 62 and live in Scotland, I know exactly how you feel. I live on my own dont have any friends and kids do their own thing.
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 27th Mar 2024 20:00:20
Good evening, welcome to the site , there are lots of people here and from..all walks of life , many topics you can chat about
Response from Scotsfemale 54 made on 27th Mar 2024 20:51:26
Thank you Patricia : -)
loulou66666
26th Mar 2024 19:52:36 (Last activity: 27th Mar 2024 19:58:04)
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Hi would love to chat Louise
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 27th Mar 2024 19:58:04
Good evening, I hope you will make lots of new friends here , it's a nice site,
PatriciaB96
27th Mar 2024 19:56:58
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Good evening and welcome to the site, I hope you will make lots of new friends here
[deleted]
9th Mar 2024 20:13:34 (Last activity: 13th Mar 2024 09:15:58)
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Response from PatriciaB96 made on 13th Mar 2024 09:15:58
Good morning and welcome to the site , I hope you will make lots of new friends here , there are many nice people here , lots to.chat about , good luck .
BBB1
22nd Feb 2024 03:20:00
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So sorry. Hope you feel better soon!
BBB1
22nd Feb 2024 03:19:05
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wonderful! best to you.
Andree Rachele
17th Feb 2024 21:44:57 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 16:00:48)
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We'll hello ..same as me xx
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 16:00:48
I see from your posting - and so many other posts - that many people come from the UK. I, on the other hand, come from one of the colonies… America. I welcome and appreciate the opportunity to communicate with you and exchange ideas about what's going on in your world and mine. Thank you.
Chris375
17th Feb 2024 23:51:14 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 15:59:54)
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Hi, Christine from Bristol here for the first time.
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 15:59:54
I see from your posting - and so many other posts - that many people come from the UK. I, on the other hand, come from one of the colonies… America. I welcome and appreciate the opportunity to communicate with you and exchange ideas about what's going on in your world and mine. Thank you.
2LateSmart
19th Feb 2024 15:56:01
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I think it's been said that the Jews have a way of describing what you mentioned...a parent can raise five children but five children can not take care of one parent. Must be frustrating for you especially since it seems that you strive to do more things and better yourself. Don't waste anymore time dwelling on the past and how children have let you down when you needed them. That happens. It says more about them than it says about you. If they can turn their back on you after all the years that you've given them what will it take for them to turn their backs on their partners.
Don't give up.
StuartEngland
17th Feb 2024 09:20:17
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Hi, I'm Stuart, from Cheshire. I know exactly what you mean. I went back to college in my late 40s so I take my hat off to you. I'd be happy to chat and see if we could spark off a friendship? Not quite sure how it all works though. Would we just message here?
Fugazi64
29th Jan 2024 09:53:13 (Last activity: 16th Feb 2024 14:06:59)
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Hello,

I have been a member here now for the best part of three minutes so thought it was about time I left a message. Pity that I can't think of anything interesting to say, but i guess that good manners dictate that I should introduce myself. I am not sure how we deal with real names here so will leave that for now, but I am a single man living in Gateshead who will turn 60 in two days time. I am happy with my lot, but also maybe considering a little bit of a reboot.

Looking forward to meeting you all.
Response from Iss made on 2nd Feb 2024 15:21:51
Hello Fugazi64 Just to say I hope you have a lovely 60th birthday. I come from Scotland and thought I would come on and see who I could chat too as the weather here is horrible . Iss
Response from Fugazi64 made on 3rd Feb 2024 11:02:50 > @Iss
Hello Iss,

Lovely to hear from you. I had a good day on my birthday (just quiet drinks with my brother and sister) and a few days off work either side, which was nice.

In Gateshead the weather is drizzly.....always!!!.....I quite like it really.

Take care and keep in touch. it would be nice to know more about you.

Bob
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 16th Feb 2024 14:06:59
Good afternoon and welcome to the site , I hope you make lots of new friends here , many nice people and lots to chat about , enjoy your day
LissaJ
18th Jan 2024 21:13:06 (Last activity: 2nd Feb 2024 15:33:14)
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I just joined yesterday, I can understand how you are feeling, I'm a young 71, just lost my husband 2 months ago, I don't have any family close to me, so it is very lonely, and i have learned over the years that its not strange, that's just what they have turned out to be, but yes I agree, they do seem to forget us
Response from Iss made on 2nd Feb 2024 15:33:14
Hi LissaJ Just to say so very sorry to hear about you losing your husband 2 months ago so sad . I hope you find some friends on here to chat too soon if you like you can chat with me anytime so don’t hesitate to do that please . I am a retired lady from Scotland. Hope to hear from you soon. Iss
PatriciaB96
2nd Feb 2024 13:58:15
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Good afternoon, and welcome to the site , there are plenty of people here who are friendly, lots of different topics to chat about , I hope you will enjoy your time here , enjoy your day
Dukey
17th Jan 2024 02:05:22 (Last activity: 25th Jan 2024 12:36:22)
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Hello…I am new so bear with me.
Response from PatriciaB96 made on 25th Jan 2024 12:36:22
Good afternoon, it's a nice site , many nice people are here , I hope you will enjoy your time here
sandgrounderinretirement
19th Jan 2024 12:06:39 (Last activity: 21st Jan 2024 15:31:02)
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Just joined today, and I'm in my early 70's, having been retired for a long while. Currently living in Northamptonshire, wher I have been now for two decades. I'm a member of the National Trust and English Heritage, as I enjoy visiting their properties every chance I get Lookng to find like minded people.
Response from Beauty made on 21st Jan 2024 15:31:02
Hi SG etc Hope you make friends on here....friendly site. All the best
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