I'm a dog person wanting to become a cat person - is there such a thing?
Watch this postHave had dogs all my life - is that what makes us 'dog people'? I understand them, love them and Sooo miss my last 15 year old who went to the great kennel last year. So last March finally thought to get another - something with a wet nose, bright eyes, didn't need much walking (especially in the rain!). Is there such a breed? - I live by the beach and love watching the dogs go by, tail up, nose forward in antipation of their walk. Even if I got an adult dog they still need walking... So..."a cat" I thought, just the thing, lots of love and cuddles and no walkies. But I know Nothing about cats, how to look after them, train them. I have researched online and found that there are cat breeds with individual traits (just like dogs), some need outside others not, some need humans others not, some are manic (heaven forbid I get one that likes to climb my curtains) some are so laid back they just sleep all day. So please, cat people, do you think I am right to want to change allegiance, is it possible, and how do I ensure that if I adopt an adult cat it will have the traits I am looking for?
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Get used to being scratched when you want to stroke them
Install a revolving door to outside, otherwise move your sofa closer to the door
Be prepared to spend a small fortune on top of the range food which will be ignored the following week.
Give your bed over to the cat. It's going to happen. Don't buy the cat its own.
Learn to love dead or dying mice and birds. Beds are the cat's preferred burial site.
Finally - never, ever, try dressing them up in stupid outfits. Same goes for dogs incidentally, but a cat will quite fairly take your hand off with its teeth if there's any justice.
Cats are beautiful and if you're lucky, loving creatures. Try a slow blink with them and when they do it back it's wonderful.
2016 -- 2021 Would love to know did you get a cat?
My lovely black cat Leo has just died. .He was my daughters neighbours cat unfortunately the lady died in her fourties and her husband was a long distance lorry driver and not always at home .My daughter suggested I look after Leo as my previous cat Cefer had died a few months previously.
We never knew his exact age but reckoned him to be around 18when he died.
I have cats all my life and only ever had one dog in the house. Blaze was a Lurcher ,my ex husband trained and raced greyhounds and also used Blaze for rabbit hunting.She was a good dog great with the cats,but smelly when wet and more tying than the cats.
Cats are in charge and intuitive giving extra cuddles when your feeling ill of course that's just because your sitting down more }!
Our reasons for being a cat or dog person are numerous but it is great to have one or the other and even both.
They are loving but not like the dogs, they like to keep their territory and privacy. They are so independent and clean. They like to be in control and they an ignore you.
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Yes, it's magical when they blink back!!
Cats, to do them justice, do usually give you fair warning of their displeasure. If I'm over-stroking etc, mine will usually give me an initial 'soft' bite, which is just a gentle warning that the next one is going to involve teeth...
Also, mine usually goes and sits by the corner of the armchair quite pointedly, and looks at me (balefully!) and gives me about ten seconds to get up and do whatever it wants, before stretching out its claws to start on the corner of the armchair shredding it to get my belated attention.
You soon learn what the meaning of the term 'operant conditioning' means when you have a cat - they train you like Pavlov's dog!!
As all cat folk will tell you, you CAN'T!!!!! That's the whole point of cats. They do what they want when they want and that is that.
One thing though - do NOT believe people who say there are cats who do not 'need' to be able to go outdoors. NO NO NO.
It is simply cruel to keep a cat indoors the whole time, even if they have a view to look out on (that's essential - looking out of windows is the main activity of a cat when indoors - other than sleeping of course!)
I appreciate no everyone has gardens, but it's perfectly possible to take a cat 'for a walk', depending on just where your flat is (not busy roads obviously).
You can get cat harnesses, and cats DO enjoy 'going for walks' (if they don't enjoy it, believe me, they won't cooperate!)
I'm lucky enough to have a garden, but I also live on a quiet, low traffic housing estate with a lot of little cul de sacs and so on, and wide grass-edged pavements, and I often take my cat for a little 'local walk' (without a harness, as he knows the area so well now).
He really enjoys sniffing around (the estate has 'open' front gardens), but can be very slow when he finds something very interesting to explore.
I have to be careful he doesn't regard a neighbour's very nicely dug over flower bed as an extra toilet for him - I take poo bags like for dogs.
If you're not sure if you are a cat person, one of the good things about cats is that if you don't look after them properly, according to their own standards, they will simply wander off and find 'alternative accommodation' that is more up to scratch!
My beautiful little girl Bengal just 10 this year follows me like a dog, she runs by my side, fetches a ball or stick, and paws me for attention much of the time. She sleeps next to me on my bed and when I've been unwell has laid her head on the pillow by me with her paw out stretched to my chest. She will kiss my nose, nestle her head into my arms and is barely away from the house when she has a little walk. She also greets me when I return home from shopping or whatever, so I can assure you if you do get a cat and give it lots of love and affection from an early age that cat will repay you with love and loyalty too. When it comes to choosing a kitten IF you decide upon a cat, make sure you see the home, the mother and watch how the kittens interact with the person selling the kittens and you. If they haven't been handles very much they may be more timid and therefore it might take a little more time to settle one, but again it all boils down to being patient and loving and not expecting too much over a few weeks when getting him/her home. Lastly I would say if you could have two, it's lovely for them, and two don't really cost that much more than one, and of course when you go away on holiday they would still have the security of one another. I hope this helps.
However, a cat, leaves hairs all over your house, brings home half dead mice and birds, prowls the area at night, scratches your furniture