Change of holiday plans
Watch this postI've arranged a holiday for 5 friends in Cornwall this September, it's now August 11th. One friend recently pulled out, and I arranged a replacement from someone the rest of us know well. Now another friend wants to bring her new boyfriend along. We are a mixed group of friends, and none of us have met this new man whom she has known for precisely 7 weeks. I feel very strongly that I don't want to go away with a new couple, and a man I don't know. He's already moved in with her. A memebr of our party has met him and says he's a nice guy, but then he likes everyone. We've asked to meet him first, but trying to get a date that all 6 of us can do is proving problematic. I feel pressurised into accepting the situation. Me and the other ladies are most unhappy with it all.
If she pulls out of we say no, we've then got to find yet another person to go in her place. The cottage sleeps 10 so there's plenty of space and he will be sharing her room. But the whole dynamic of the holiday will change. I've holidayed with all other members of the group before, but never with her (and never again!) Am I being unreasonable?
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I think you’re being very unreasonable and a little controlling.