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Balance

Married to someone that always wants more…doesn’t work…complain about what we don’t have…doesn’t keep house…is a good mom.. I’m always not making enough (200k), always complains we don’t go anywhere…the youngest of 3 daughters. Been married 20 years. When do you say when?


Created By on 15/09/2024

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ecarg
26th Sep 2024 09:24:33
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Put your happiness first
There are lots of practicalities to arrange but putting things in place will give you positivity for the future
It is possible to have an amicable separation (I've done it) you just need to communicate minus the emotional confratations
Good wishes Tim A1
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MariD
20th Sep 2024 23:06:37
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Thanks for voting!
My situation is very challenging too. I cope by each day making one small/tiny step to get to where I want to be.
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ANNA17
19th Sep 2024 01:47:12
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Thanks for voting!
What does your gut tell you? First make a pro and con list. Maybe have spouse do the same. Do you have finances for separate living if this is a considered option? Would you still be there for each other when major problems occur? Maybe see a therapist for help sorting your feelings out and what the repercussions could be with the kids if you separate or divorce. You are not the same person you were 20 years ago or is she. Values change and different needs arise. Individual counseling first and then if wanted, couples therapy. I wish you blessings in the next stage of your life journey.
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