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30th Sep 2024
MariD commented on:
Venting ~ Wish I can retire tomorrow!Hi there. I feel for you. Working has been a main focus of your life for 50 years. I've read a lot of advice about not extending work when you retire, apparently it doesn't make life better. Perhaps work on building structure for your days, and start to build a new retired day . Start small, take one time slot in the day and make a routine thing. I felt like you, although I've not retired yet, I'm building a new retirement day whilst I'm working. There are slots in my daily plan, for socialising, walking groups, housework, future planning, holiday planning etcViewDate:
25th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
How to increase my social circleI have found a beach based volunteering scheme in Malaysia, which is for the locals. Best part is, I don't have to pay and organisation £450 per week! Husband and I can stay somewhere comfortable and eat well for half that.ViewDate:
25th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
CyprusHi diewis We are in the early stages of planning our retirement in Cyprus. We wonder what on earth we would do all day though. I'd like to do some volunteering, especially something marine or beach based. Do you know anyone who does volunteering? I have looked at UK based volunteering organisations and their programs appear to be the most blatant rip offs.ViewDate:
24th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
Venting ~ Wish I can retire tomorrow!I feel the same as you TonyBhave. I have 5 years left to go (unless retirement age is raised to 68 which is rumoured) I work in Healthcare and it feels like its collapsing around me. I'm using my time to plan where to go and live-not staying in the UK that's for sure. What are your plans?ViewDate:
24th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
How to increase my social circlejust joined U3A. I'm also looking into volunteering abroad next year, should be fun!ViewDate:
24th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
How to increase my social circleThat's a good idea. I will look and see if we have one here.ViewDate:
24th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
How to increase my social circleHope you find something nice. Around here there wasn't much I fancied, and you have to usually sign up for months too. I'm looking into volunteering abroad next year too.ViewDate:
24th Sep 2024
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23rd Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
How to increase my social circleHi Manjinder I tried really hard, and looked at lots of clubs etc, but none were really my thing. Just today, I found my thing on 'Meet up'. There is a walk and drink group, and a silent book club. Perfect. I hope there is something near you like this.ViewDate:
23rd Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
All mixed up, where to startI'm on the road! Blurting out all the foregoing prompted me to look again at social groups near me, and this time as if by fate, I found the right thing. Small steps until I am where I need to be.ViewDate:
23rd Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
All mixed up, where to startI'm starting to try to work out how to get back to what I used to be. We have 2 teenagers who are in their rooms most of the time, so don't really know how bad it is. There were many times in the beginning, when I walked away, but was more or less bribed by my husband and his mother to return (I take responsibility for that, I thought I could somehow change things and make it work) . Back then, I thought I could stay until I got back on my feet. I also wanted a family, but thought it would be ok. Life is hard with someone who can't really process the real world, conversation or interaction, due to paranoia. His mother has very serious Control Disorder (derived from foetal alcohol syndrome). It means she is obsessive, domineering, intrusive, abusive, controlling and aggressive . Almost every encounter with her leads to her having a full on screaming session at someone. I've not got this under control by severely limiting exposure to her over the years. I have enforced contact rules and eventually ensured my husband follows the rules. Things have finally become manageable with her. All of the foregoing has brought me to here. I'm looking for the way forward, and thinking of little steps. Our first teenager is at Uni, the 2nd will go next year, so I now have more time to think about tings. The worst is, the thing I miss the most is romance etc. My moral code prevents me from seeking a relationship outside of my marriage, even though that is probably the only thing I really want! My previous life was packed with romantic adventures and travel.ViewDate:
22nd Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
GreetingsI think so. He's shocked everyone with how well he turned his life around after failing gcse'sViewDate:
20th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
Venting ~ Wish I can retire tomorrow!I want to retire so bad! I'm 63 and work full time in a job, working from home. Most days, I'm bored unconscious by 2pm! I can't retire yet, our second teenager is about to start Uni, and her brother is starting year 2 at Unil I can't work out what on earth I would do if I do retire. Husband has mental health problems so I'm usually worn out by the end of the day anyway. I've travelled the world since I was young, and a bit after I got married, but I can't work up the enthusiasm for travelling anymore! I've tried local clubs and groups, but not found anything that I'm enthusiastic about yet.ViewDate:
20th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
Hello - Carpe Diem !!!Hello! Your post made me smile. I bet I'm proud of the fact that I'm an absolutely dreadful skier. I last skied at 57, with my teenage daughter. I kept thinking there are not many 57 year old mums on this slope. I'm 63 now and although stuck in a challenging situation, I do love a good laugh. I joined NetMums when I was pregnant many years ago, and sometimes laughed until I cried. My daughter tells me I'm a total rebel and a menace at airports. I feel like I'm about 20 years old in my head. i decided at 11 that I wanted to travel the world, so I did just that. Last year, we took our 2 teenagers to Japan, it was epic. I love it when people rejoice at doing things badly, it makes us more interesting people I'm sure. But wow, pole dancing, I'm guessing that is difficult.ViewDate:
20th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
ConversationHi I'm new here too. Feeling lost in life, at 63, but I bet plenty of people here have found a way around feeling lost!ViewDate:
20th Sep 2024
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20th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
BalanceMy situation is very challenging too. I cope by each day making one small/tiny step to get to where I want to be.ViewDate:
20th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
GreetingsThe sun was out. My son has finally done his packing-he's going back to Uni tomorrow. I had a real laugh at naughty cats on You Tube. What was good for you today?ViewDate:
20th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
Hello - looking for like minded friends to chat withHello Rhyll, how are you today?ViewDate:
20th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
Unhappy and nothing to look forward toWe should congratulate ourselves! 38 years is a long time to keep going at anything! I laugh when advisers say 'talk to him', in my case, that is a total waste of time! My husband has mental illness and a huge array of nervous habits. I have asked him every day for 30 years to try not do x or y, and the next day, it all starts again. Talking to him about it has the same outcome. I'm too tired to find the way out.ViewDate:
20th Sep 2024 MariD commented on:
Unhappy and nothing to look forward toI do feel for you, it's the opposite here. Husband tries to be a good companion but he has mental illness and I long ago gave up trying to change anything! I'm so worn out after a day working and trying to keep him afloat. My neighbour said I need to get out more. I'd love to get out and do something and just get a break, but I'm just too tired! I long ago forgot who I am, what I like and what I want too.
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