Anybody out there finding themselves on their own
Watch this postHi, I'm a widow and very happily retired. After losing my husband almost ten years ago I'm now accustomed to living alone.
That doesn't mean I don't need someone I can share my thoughts, good conversation and lots of laughs with. I am now 75 but still lively minded in body and soul. I'm not fuddy duddy or miserable.
I would really appreciate someone who enjoys life to become a good friend. Is that someone you?
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It has been incredibly hard to find the way forward and nobody can help ... much as they try...say the kind words...but its up to you to deal with and you do eventually... but its still there.
Im about to retire soon and thats another big step but im determined to continue on and see the world for what it is,, join some clubs and start being more social with like minded people. I think ive used my work style and people there to take over my life and now its time ( never too late right?) to enjoy my time. Never thpught id be widowed at 50 and alone......... I did have 30 wonderful years though.. Im ready to start enjoying life ..alone.... Im accustomed to my independence but would like a friend..x
thank you for your message, Im sorry ive been a bit delayed in replying, I do find this site hard to navigate- there are so many wondeful things on her but really difficult to wade through- I know many people feel the same which is a shame as theres so much on here. ( take note admin!!!)
So this is my last few days..... at work... really enotional and in some ways I cannot wait for it to be over!! In others its so sad a s a few people I will really miss, only a handful to be fair.. I too am hoping to be in the garden- not my strongest point but im willing to learn. Maybe you can give me a list of jobs that need doing each month or suggestions anyhow! Also the Goldster courses are offering £1 for 3 months which seems amazing - do you take part in any? So I will be busy and then feel like a cruise or holiday... so many options and after being in education foir my whole career- a holiday in term time-wow cheaper and more choice ... so seems like a lot to do....how busy will I be lol ,but for now I need to get through these last 4 days........ speak soon Jackie xx
I am brand new to this site I’m 83 years old. Also a widow for over 14 years I’m looking for a new friend to share my thoughts. And conversations with are you that person
Im new on here so a bit late responding but hopeful you will want to chat still with any newbies? Im 80, still 30-ish inside, outside is a bit different although Im faring quite well. Active despite a little arthritis and of a happy disposition, although I do still like an occasional moan. Live alone and enjoy it, have a beautiful daughter living in Kent and a beautiful son living also in Kent. Love animals and support many charities, shopping, conversation frivolous and serious. Also enjoy my weekend bottle of red wine. I live in south east London. Is that enough for anyone?
77 next birthday, very positive attitude, have had a 'lively' life, you name it - been there, am hoping to do more next year.
I value friendship, my bestie lives 20 miles away so have not yet visited her in Wales
Love the Internet, it has opened up a whole new way on conversing with people
If you want to drop me a line
Jan
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I am active with a variety of hobbies, dogs (3) helping out with g’children by driving to activities, pick up at school etc.
Happy to chat
How about you?
Human beings are social creatures- it's in our dna and everyone's physical health depends on connecting mentally with people. While some people may feel they prefer being on their own, they usually have friends or family with whom they maintain regular contact and so don't have the experience of true isolation. In reality, people who think they prefer to be alone still have the social support networks in place that provide emotional and mental well-being.
Complete isolation can be extremely overwhelming and can quickly lead to various negative consequences for mental & physical health. If you find yourself in a situation where you are truly alone for extended periods, it's essential to seek out social connections to maintain a healthy life. Sadly, in 2023 onwards, social media is destroying opportunity & it's very dangerous as even forums like this one are now few & far between.
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I too feel desperate at times.
My situation is complicated. And too deep to go into right now.
But I just wanted to say I understand
Please reply if you want.
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Hope to meet you all again at some point folks! Groping my way around like a lost soul! 🙂
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I will mention Single Ladies to my friend in Devon as well - she may be interested. She seems to go on all sorts of interesting trips - sometimes on Sailing boats with several other traellers too!.
I agree with what you say about going places on your own...it is difficult to strike up conversations and we can be regarded with suspicion! lol! That is why I enjoy volunteering so much - it is my job to do that and it is great fun sharing the knowledge I have now absorbed! Lots of laughter too!
Do update us in due course - I enjoy hearing about people's travels...mine are somewhat limited now because I have two dogs and they have never been in kennels - always came everywhere with us - cat too at one time - even caravanning in France....so have to find the best ever Kennels for me to leave them now! Go for it gal! 🙂
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