Adult Grandchildren
Watch this postI posted on this last year, commenting on the fact that my adult grandchildren very rarely say thank you when I send them a cheque for £20 on their birthday and Christmas. I decided this year just to send them Christmas cards, with the exception of one of them who is at University and not earning. This one has never said "Thank You". As soon as she is earning I will stop sending her a cheque.
I feel a mean old bag but it adds up to lot of money. These days it need not cost them anything or very little. A text or phone call would have been enough.
What do other grandparents think?
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I am working full time.Buying someone presents is time consuming,can be expensive,and due to my son living in another country,the postage was horrendous.I would message my son to ask him to let me know when the parcel arrived.He did'nt.I had to chase him up to check.Then when it came to the occasion,he would never thank me.I thought I had brought him up much better than that,and that in itself is disappointing.It was'nt costing him anything to message me on Facebook or whatever.
My advice is to save your money.If people can't be bothered to at the very least thankyou,then they are not worthy of a gift.
I see posts that the parents are to blame for this kind of behavior in their children. Well if we continue to be the softie grandparents we are continuing that pattern. I have known forever that I need to take care of myself in regard to being around people that do not like or respect me. Lose much less sleep now. Families are those we choose not necessarily our biological family. 🙂