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Sometimes there is friction between family members, and misunderstandings can so easily occur … is there anything troubling you within your family at the moment?

Sometimes there is friction between family members, and misunderstandings can so easily occur … is there anything troubling you within your family at the moment?


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carpediem1940
16th Oct 2023 20:46:44
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Hello l have a bit of a problem at the present time and it goes like this: my eldest grandson is getting married next year 2024, and the problem is he is at odds with his mother and he has stated that on no account will she be invited to the wedding,l had a long chat with him and tried to persuade him to change his mind but he has told me that along with his mother not getting an invite various other members of the family are not invited, now the problem l have he has invited me and my wife to attend the wedding and when l informed my daughter ( his mother ) that l had an invite she went spare and stated l could not go as no other member of the family was invited.

Now l am 83 years old and it is unlikely that l will be around to see any of the other grandchildren get married the problem is do l accept the invite or decline it to please my daughter, really do not know what l should do as l could cause problems with the mother ( my daughter ), someone please give me some sound advice.

many thanks
John
Response from cris1117 made on 17th Oct 2023 09:54:42
Go to the wedding let the rest of the family get on with the petty squabbling, you only live once and when its gone its gone so enjoy every second while you can.
Your family is obviously not considering your feelings placing you in a no win situation, you are going to upset someone so just please yourself.
Response from carpediem1940 made on 17th Oct 2023 15:01:36
Hi Thanks for your reply, it looks like sound advice.
John
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 04:29:31 > @carpediem1940
From your age you or possibly a veteran, if so, all the more reason to do what the heck you want.
If your grandchild can turn his back on his mother how long will it take him to do that to his wife? You can't solve that problem if it becomes one but you have to do what you feel best right at this moment. If I were to tell you that you can't go how would you feel? If the answer is uneasy or sad then go. If the answer was grateful, then don't go. In the end it will be the right answer. You cannot waste your remaining years trying to please those two generations. As they say,I can't tell you how to be a success but I can't tell you how to be a failure try to please everybody
KatieD1
17th May 2024 00:09:40
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I feel shut out. My children never call or visit
juelsi
12th Apr 2014 22:16:21 (Last activity: 19th Feb 2024 04:30:49)
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Hi fellow experienced adults.
I posted this earlier in the wrong place...sorry.
Am l the only Grand mother who having enjoyed their grand children, then goes onto feel upset and angry at their parents attitude towards the children?
Response from 2LateSmart made on 19th Feb 2024 04:30:49
He didn't explain what their “attitude” was
2LateSmart
19th Feb 2024 04:24:17
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Perhaps we have made things too easy for them. When things come for free people tend to take more than they should, more than they're entitled to. It's like cookies at a diner after the end of the meal; people just grab handfuls even though they're full. We have to introduce them to concept of sharing... that they should do it among themselves after we're gone. It's not always that “He who grabs gets” sometimes things have to be given to those who can't grab fast enough for themselves. It's the kind of legacy we'd like to leave where people love each other enough to give. In Portugal, where my family is from, it was more common for people to delight in what they had rather than be envious for what they didn't have.... comparison is the great thief of joy.
Don’t let this get to you. You don’t deserve it.

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