Seniors with limited mobility who's kids have grown and gone

I am on my own and have been for nearly 40 yrs,no children and no close relatives.I made the decision just over a year ago to move to an area near to my youth (now in my 70s) I have joined clubs but people are only acquaintances at this stage,on arrival in my new home was told that ''we do not go into each other's houses". So as you can imagine I have kept my distance but since being here my health has not been that good and quite honestly I feel so isolated,I just don't know where to turn and feel that I might be heading for a nervous breakdown,suicidal thoughts have even entered my thoughts. Since my husband died I have held it together pretty well but now feel I can't do it any longer
I realize that a lot of people are suffering far more than I am but it has been therapeutic to express my inner most self. I would love to hear from anyone as you can imagine.

I'm limited in more ways than mobility and have no family nearby. All myf acquaintances/friends here are younger and healthier. Looking for someone to talk to.

It can be very lonely when you are on your own especially when the only girl you have loved and been in love with passes away unexpectedly friends mean well but they have no idea howe desolate you feel

Having suffered with less than good health for most of my life,thankfully I managed a very successful Nursing career,but then in the 80`s I was at death`s door repeatedly as major surgery and treatments were required for 4 various cancers.
My husband struggled for 10 years working long hours to pay the mortgage whilst caring for me but eventually he was Medically advised to retire at 55........ or putting it bluntly we would both end up in coffins sooner rather than later!
So for the past 30 years my health has deteriorated..................... and now he too has a life threatening illness newly diagnosed.
We have no children or near family so life is indeed very difficult.
We moved into this lovely home in the country when life seemed better but which now is proving far from ideal,the gardens,once our pride and joy are a burden,the property far too big,we live 3 miles out of town and all needful amenities.
So it is a must that we drastically rearrange our lives.................... making things far easier for us to cope in a situation that is only going to get constantly worse.
A situation that is easy to suggest and even to agree is right............. but not very easy to implement when perpetually feeling so under par,lots of maintenance required but no strength to do it,moving house needs the property and gardens looking well kept or there are no hopes for a buyer............
When handicapped the new home has to have certain special areas...........it is not easy finding these and viewing itself is a nightmare...............furthermore this is but the tip of the problem,time waiteth not........... and the health continues to deteriorate.................HELP!!!

So we are not alone ...........there are many of us facing what seems unsurmountable and nightmarish problems.......... but it is good to share........and sharing comes for free!!

I totally endorse the fact crystalbear............it is a very lonely life.......

Hi, I am in the same boat, only 57 but have been 'poorly' for a while. Got three lovely sons, two married and third has own house across the country. Very lonely.

Hi my name is Marj I am struggling with my mobility and my daughter has just bought me a mobility scooter, I have just been on holiday with my scooter and realised I just couldn't manage with out it.I haven't used it at home yet in the west lanc's area as I think I shall feel a bit embarrassed as I have always been very active.i can walk but only short distances, I did notice on holiday on my scooter some people tend to talk to you like you are a bit stupid I felt like saying it's my legs that don't work too good not my mind I wonder if any body else has experienced the same ☺️

Hello everyone, my name's Louise Carey, I'm 59, live in Norwich and hoping to make some friends in a similar situation to myself.
Unfortunately I have suffered from ME for many years but in the last 8 years my health has deteriorated and become severe. I am now mostly house/bedbound and my husband is my carer. It is a very lonely existence.
I have 2 married sons and a daughter and a married stepson and stepdaughter plus 5 beautiful granddaughters and a new grandson. Sadly, most of them are some distance away and they all have their own busy lives to lead, so I don't see them as much as I'd like to or as my health allows.
To be honest, although I had a career until I was medically retired in 1997, I was always a Mum first and never could get used to having an 'empty nest'.
I have 2 miniature Australian labradoodles, Sadie 3 and Betty 8 months and I love them to bits. I've always had cats and dogs but after the loss of my last cat a couple of years ago I decided no more.
I would love to hear from anyone who'd care to get in touch.
I can be found on Facebook or louscarey@hotmail.com.

I thought l was the only one out there in a very simular situation, my mobility is very limited l spend nearly 80-90% of my time in bed as sitting and standing is very painful, my husdand works full time l'm very fortunate that my son work's from home so he's here if l need him. living in my box is very lonely at times as my friends have either moved back home or moved a broad 🙂