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Older grandchildren who never say Thank Your for Christmas or Birthday cheques

I have six grandchildren who no longer live at home with their parents and I very rarely receive a Thank You. It is so easy these days. They could easily pick up the telephone or send an email. I feel like just sending a card.


Do other grandparents always receive a Thank You?


Created By on 16/09/2018

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nellydean
13th Apr 2019 12:46:28
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I am fortunate that my granchildren thank me, either by text or a letter. Perhaps a reminder from you on your card, such as let me know when you get this. This works for me for my grandson who is in the RAF, because his post goes to a central point and takes several days to reach him.
I find that some friends are guilty of this too, not thanking one for a present.
As my family is getting larger I have stopped buying Christmas presents for all except my great grandchildren. I felt mean at first, but the family were fine about it. It was becoming too expensive, which I could not afford. I always buy them a good Birthday present.
Yogafan
2nd Feb 2019 19:33:55
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My son has been notorious for doing this.He lives oversea's and has done so for a few years.We had always sent gifts for Xmas,his birthday and Easter.To begin with he did use his manners.I'd send him a message asking him to look out for a parcel/card,and to please let us know when it arrived.He always did.He'd then say a big thankyou when the special day (Xmas or whatever)arrived.However the last say 5 yrs,he has'nt.I have to chase him up to keep asking if he has received them,and he does'nt thank us for them either anymore.His loss I'm afraid.Last Xmas we decided not to give him any presents or card.(I need to add here he has never sent us ANYTHING in all the time he's lived OS.)Its his birthday in April,and although we'll wish him a HB via a message,he won't get any gifts or card.We don't expect any gifts back.Never have.We do however expect atleast an acknowledgement that he's got them,and a thankyou.We both work hard,spent a fair amount in the past not to mention OS postage costs,and for him to not even send a free thankyou via Facebook or whatever is unacceptable.
ArchieUK
24th Jan 2019 08:02:42
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We do not go down the thank you road, we give because we want to give , that is our pleasure ,not recieving thank you notes.
Beth1940
17th Jan 2019 16:01:35
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Not so much bothered about a "Thank you" as an acknowledgement that they have received the present! When I've taken the time and effort to send it I don't want it to go missing!
Superscorpio72
10th Nov 2018 22:22:20
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I wouldn't send the ungrateful little so - and - so's anything more.
patcaf
17th Oct 2018 16:42:14
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We rarely receive a thank you from our grandchildren or even our children but the we send money and presents because we want to , not because we expect anything back. When we see them they will always say thanks for such and such but it is often months later. Occasionally we will get a WhatsApp or Instagram message. Does not really bother us I have to say. They are lovely children and are always very happy to see us or come and visit us. We will stop when they are 18.
Stjustpaul
16th Oct 2018 13:12:56 (Last activity: 16th Oct 2018 16:22:19)
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My wife and I have decided that as our four grandchildren never bother to say thank you for gift nor do they send us cards, (well they did on our Diamond wedding anniversary but we think that was to ensure their invite to the rave up!) we shall no longer give either gifts or cards and see what happens.
Response from CaroleAH made on 16th Oct 2018 16:22:19
Good for you! 🙂
Stjustpaul
25th Sep 2018 14:03:55 (Last activity: 15th Oct 2018 23:15:26)
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We have a strange mix with our family. four grandchildren and six great grandchildren, in that gifts to our 'greats' are always thanked for profusely by their parents.
Gifts to the parents which are handed over personally get thanked for, money however sent in cards is never acknowledged until we ask if they have received it, then we get a begrudged 'yes thanks'
We have been told we should be on 'snap chat' whatever that is as it is easier! We have an email address and a landline what's the problem? Other than bad manners of course.
Response from summer49 made on 15th Oct 2018 23:15:26
Yes you have hit it on the nail. Until I joined this forum thought the only one feeling this way. Do think we need to keep reminding them of the fact they should say thank you.
summer49
15th Oct 2018 23:12:30
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Know how you feel. We were brought up sending thank you notes. Taken for granted these days that you give. You need to say what you feel. They won’t like it but at least you will not feel taken for granted.
Pedro2
15th Oct 2018 13:09:03
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Hi Topsie,

If my Children or Grandchildren couldn't be bothered to at least say a simple thankyou, I certainly wouldn't bother sending or giving them anything else. (my Grandchildren are a bit young to even acknowledge as yet though. 🙂


Regards


Steve
CaroleAH
18th Sep 2018 10:08:20
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I remember (in the long distant past!) when I was young and every Boxing Day was spent writing thank-you letters to grand-parents, aunts and uncles and that good habit persists to this day; usually emails to thank family and friends for presents and meals etc. It's just good manners. In my family, as there are quite a lot of us, we have stopped buying presents for all the adults and the children only receive presents until they are 18, after that it's just a card. I think it would be interesting to see what the reaction would be if you just sent a card to each grandchild, Topsie. We will soon be coming up to Christmas so perhaps that could be the start of changing things. Good luck and do let us know what happens.
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16th Sep 2018 13:55:52 (Last activity: 17th Sep 2018 21:36:54)
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Response from Topsie Original Poster made on 17th Sep 2018 21:36:54
When my daughter's three children were living at home she always got them to send me a thank you note, sometimes all three wrote a few lines on the same card. I didn't mind.. It is only now that they no longer live at home I never get a thank you. My eldest son's two children rarely say thank you, even when they were young. My youngest son's daughter has never said thank you. I once told her mother that I hadn't received a thank you. She said she would get her to send an email she never did. She is now at University. My eldest grandson came to see me a few days after his birthday but still didn't thank me. A monthly statement from the bank shows the cheques have been banked.
AnnetteD9
17th Sep 2018 12:25:49
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I have a 25 year old grand daughter, she has never sent us a card for birthdays or christmas, always included in her dads cards, we never receive a thank you for anything we send.
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