Love - what on earth is it?
Watch this postI have to hold up my hand and admit to never having found love, and I have certainly never been 'in love' so I'm perhaps not best placed to make judgements on something so subjective. I had a number of 'lusty' relationships in the distant past, and more than one partner uttered the words, 'I love you' but I didn't ever feel the need to reciprocate. Are lusty, physical relationships the same as 'love' I wonder, and can we live happy productive lives without ever feeling the need for love?
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I found it several times in my life but alas I don't seem to be able to hang onto it.....very careless of me, never mind eh!
But I agree with you...it certainly makes the world a little bit more exciting!
I have had the occasional 'fling' since my divorce 20 years ago, usually on holiday and it was fun. I would love to be able to tell you that my holiday romances were with 7ft tall, blond Swedish men, but sadly they were mostly 5' 6'' with nostril hair, wearing football shirts and hailing from such exotic places like Accrington, Luton, or Heckmondwike.
I think that Cupid thinks that I'm undeserving of ever finding my Mr Right, and at 68 I doubt that I ever will.
There you are......another conversation topic......" What would be your happy ever after?"
He's not exactly an oil painting himself and neither is Camilla. 'Birds of a feather' as they say.
"If you want to know where your heart is, follow your mind and see where it wanders to"
can't believe you have never been loved. it's nothing to do with lusty relationships
must admit I wonder if you are not 'winding up' the readers of your posts just to get attention. :-)) I'm fascinated..... but also wonder why you don't reply to my
mail. ? the mind boggles.
I too have never been 'in love' but does it matter, treating people with respect and enjoying who they are is far more realistic as the flame they call love can die very quickly when he is sitting on the bed cutting his toenails.. Seriously relationships can be hard living with another is never easy making adjustments and excepting a loss of freedom is never easy. Do we get wiser as we get older I don't honestly know. To all those out there who have experienced true love may it always survive and may it grow and expand.
I think the term "love" is what we want it to be at a given time in our lives....... Oh dear a bit profound for a Sunday afternoon!