Just joined so I'm introducing myself.
Watch this postI will be 67 next month and retired from the many different jobs in my working life. I guess that I didn’t ever find my calling. I went to university at age 59 but when it was over it was too late to launch a new career. I wanted to lecture but students don’t want to listen to old fogies, so sadly I put aside that idea and settled into life as an eccentric dog owner.
I live in a beautiful Lancashire valley surrounded by hills that demand they be walked/climbed, how could I refuse?
I would like to do a bit of cycle touring but a recent diagnosis of spondylosis and some hip pain means that I may not be doing a world tour anytime soon!
I’m keen to make some friends as I have been on my own for a very long time now, my daughters don’t bother much with me and I don’t have a partner.I didn’t expect to be so isolated at this time in my life, isn’t it strange the way family and friends seem to forget us when we get past 60?
I will pop in regularly and hope to strike up some friendships.
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We were asked why we write. I said for escapism but afterwards thought what I like most are letters....
Email is the modern equivalent but you can't beat a real paper letter with lovely handwritten words in ink.
I love cooking and run a small Pudding Club. My hope had been to make mostly good old fashioned puddings but mostly we make cakes, desserts, pastries and biscuits.
I have a plan to change the way the club is run to bring it to a wider audience.
Men particularly seem enjoy a traditional homemade pudding, but we are all women.
I live in glorious West Somerset and love it. We live in quite an isolated area in the hills where i am often out and about walking my lovely Spanish rescue dog Bilbo.
He is a nervous little boy, finds the world a scary place full of noises and movements which make him jump in fright. He is getting braver and now comes out with us for pub meals. He makes himself as small as possible and sits hidden under the table where he does enjoy watching all the comings and goings.
It is my birthday on Friday. I will be 67 so if anyone would care to reply that would be my birthday treat.
Thanks for reading.
Hope you're preparing a mega-Birthday pudding/cake for Friday.....who knows - it may be the start of 'PuddinsRus'.
All the best on the day and for the rest of the year. Just reflect on all your experience and wisdom gained through the years.....if you could distill it all.....
Anyway, HAPPY BIRTHDAY for Friday. X
....You have worth & value..stuff happens, work through it and hold on to what you value. All the best X
After 34 years of marriage my husband decided to tell me he no longer loved me and hadn’t for sometime. He wanted us to separate and thought I would welcome this too. He was wrong there but, to keep the story short, there were issues with us both which could, I feel have been addressed. I for my part had devoted my time to our two daughters and made up for him, because of work, not always being around and was looking forward to a time when he would retire and we would be able to spend more time together. However he had met someone through his activities and suddenly saw a future with her instead. Obviously there is a lot more to this but basically I am now alone and, as well as my past married life being made less than a happy memory, I feel that the future I saw for us has also been snatched away.
My daughters are busy with work, their own relationships and their children. I see them often and love seeing my grandsons but they do have their own lives. We did have a lovely holiday together last year but I can’t expect them to always want to take me.
I acquired a little dog for company and to give me a reason to get up in the morning which is great because I have to go out with her even when I don’t really feel like it!
My problem is that I want to be able to do the things I had expected to do in retirement like days out, weekends away and holidays. I want to take the dog for walks and pub lunches etc, not much fun alone. I no longer drive and that is an issue, and I won’t again so it is no use suggesting, as a kind person did recently, that I try again. Also, if I’m honest I would like some kind of relationship, not perhaps a mad passion but loving and warm. Someone to hold and be held by, and to go places with.
My question is, am I wrong to want this? How do I go about it without looking as though I just want a driver to take me out?
I’m 65 and I feel robbed of the autumn of my life that I expected. Am I being unrealistic and do I have to accept another ten or years of loneliness?
So, here I am joining this Silver Surfers thingy.
Not sure what to look at or where to go , but I'm here.
It looks a good place to drop a few lines, air an idea or an opinion and get some great advice along the way.
Kindest Regards sixtfox
Having four children and grandchildren keeps me active and up to date with the fast moving world ,,needing silence at times to take it all in and have free space in my little home ,.I enjoy arts and craft and usually find myself with a paintbrush in my hand or full of glue as i love to revamp furniture and craft things from nothing ,,.
Believing everything happens for a reason i enjoy all aspects of life and take nothing for granted ,. hope to speak to some nice people on here and make friends though i do have many in Manchester .
Most of the time I really enjoy living here but at the moment the weather is very hot and dry and I’m wilting along with our veg patch.
Looking forward to hearing from people across the world.
Greeting from UK & tree-lined Surrey. Really hope weather is being kinder to you & vegetable patch, & giving you some rain - Spring rainfall here is even less than normal....ditch @ bottom of garden is empty already, doesn't bode well for later in year.... All the best
Welcome to....all of us. We're all as interesting or boring as each other....elements of humanity, each with our own life stories. Long way from you as I'm in Surrey, but my lovely Mum came from New Kyo... Hope you make some friends on here XxX
enjoy international exchanges!
Welcome to Silversurfers - hope you find lots of topics of interest which you can join in with. It would be great to see some photos of your part of the world on the Showcase. Carole 🙂
Bill here, my friends call me Don, but either of the three can work. I live in Farnborough, but have spent much of the past 14 years in Melbourne. While the change has mostly been due to personal reasons, I love to think of myself as a world citizen. There is something about staying in a single place for too long that does my mind in, so I love to move around whenever responsibility allows.
I just happened across this awesome community as I was looking up some clean eating pointers. Thought I would drop a line in and hopefully engage you from time to time.
Cheers
You're right....we're all awesome, not sure about the 'clean eating', is that possible nowadays. Anyways, last time I was in Melbourne in Summer (a while ago) it rained, so I felt at home. Hope you're enjoying life in leafy Hampshire....All the best Beauty
PS Always happy to try find my 'rolling stone'....whenever responsibility allows...
Welcome to the site.... Loads of interest on here. Hope you enjoy.
Welcome to the site.. Not sure where you're located..but hope you'll fnd some new friends on here, Beauty
I am a fairly fit 71, and enjoy all the above.
I would like to hear from anyone who would like to become and friend. Male of Female.
Jean
Welcome to all of us. Hope you can find a companion with canine on here. I'm too far away from you, way down in SE. However, wish you all the best on here, Beauty
Welcome to the site. Concerning recipes for singletons, Delia Smith's 'One is Fun' is useful and loads of photos to inspire you. It was originally published in the mid-80s, but the recipes are classic. You might be able to pick up a copy in your local charity shop or library....happy eating and cooking.
All the best Beauty.
We missed orll missed you.....
Living in North East Scotland although originate from Hartlepool in the North east of England.
Decided to stay in this part of the world when I left the RAF and now work part time as a Prison Officer.
Member of the local Buffs and do a lot of fundraising for local causes, and also a member of one of the local photography clubs, so the spare time I have is usually taken up with one or the other.
Enjoy doing DIY and since losing my wife I have started to experiment in the kitchen. The only trouble is all the recipes I seem to get are for 4 or 6 people so any advice for singleton recipes would be gratefully received.
Ray
Welcome to the site..
Sounds like you're @ the happening end, and hope you can make friends on here. Lived in N1 back in the 80's, pros & cons...like everything in life. Be aware & be open....All the best Beauty
Welcome to the site... I'm also in Surrey and use no.7 products (honest!) & could do with some advice. Which branch are you ....? All the best on here. Beauty
just introducing myself ( I’m the one in the middle on my profile picture) I’m originally from Cumbria and have lived in Surrey for 33 years. I love going to concerts and enjoy all music. Love the theatre especially musicals and of course travelling my special place has to be Morocco .
I work full time as a beauty advisor for No7. I love a good laugh with friends and a good G&T usually the two go together !!
(Belated) Happy Birthday to you. I had a birthday at the weekend...Whatever you do, just remember 65 is the new 40!! Have sent you a chat message, but as I'm based in Woking, I'm probably too far away from you.
I used to work in Leman St, back in the day, great fun. All the best on here and hope you can find some new friends close to home.
I'm Jools. I have just turned 69.. I live in East London. Happy to chat with everyone from all areas. However would love to know if there are any East London ladies on here. I love current affairs, music and theatre. I am not one for travelling and I am
not into pubs but love restaurants.
I have a lovely rescue dog. I am interested in healthy living as I need to get fit. Haven't been as motivated as I should be in that area I am sorry to say!
If you would like to chat with me I would love to hear from you.