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Watch this postLife is so hard since I lost my husband - does anyone else feel the same?
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I`m sorry for your loss too. Why is life so cruel? I thought life got easier the older you got but when something like this happens you feel out of control. My family are amazing but the feeling of loneliness even in a crowded room is overwhelming sometimes. I have been thinking of writing things down but will I be dredging it all up again, I don`t know?
Since losing my husband I plucked up courage to join a creative writing group and it has helped. I did write about what happened at first, but now I write about all sorts of things. I gives me something to think about.
Another thing I do is by my bed I have a notebook and every night before I go to sleep I have to write down three good things that happened that day. Sometimes it’s something like seeing a beautiful sunrise while walking the dog, or having a nice meal. At the end of the week I can look back and think well maybe this week wasn’t so bad.
But that thing of being lonely in a crowded room is so true.
I lost my husband in May . It was very quick he was not even poorly. I have been trying to cope but finding it very hard. My daughter lives with me houses very expensive around here. Im finding it hard. . She was very close to him and has taken it hard. Im 75 butdont feel it I had a hip op in Oct.and its knocked me back
I`m so glad you`ve found an outside interest for yourself. The Group you have joined sounds wonderful. I`ve been staying with my daughter, babysitting but when they move house next month I will be back home. There are lots of things I want to change in my house which will keep me occupied but I will also try and make time most days to get out and about. I too considered moving nearer my daughter but I have so much family around me that I`m staying put. Feeling a lot better too, still get a few bad nights though but learning to control them and remember happier times. Good luck to you too.
My husband died very suddenly at my feet. It was rather a shock to say the least. However you do have to get up and get on. Whichever way you choose is up to you. We all get by/through as best we can. Time accommodates. Just don't stay indoors and weep.
Put on you face and get out there. Hard if you are in a new place but possible.
What a coincidence I am going to see a medium later on this year with my sister too. We were going in January but the snow stopped us, I did wonder if it was a sign but we thought about it and decided we wanted to go and find out one way or the other. I do believe life goes on but would like to be told something only my husband could tell me.I`ll post on here when I`ve been will you too? xx
Know exactly how you feel - I lost my wife in December and it's hell on earth. This is not how I expected the future to be, she had only just turned 64 and died the day before my 65th birthday. It's very tough.
If you want to talk privately just send me a message.