Abusive adult children
Watch this postI’m wondering if anyone lease has experienced problems with abusive adult children ?
My 32 year old daughter asked to come and live with me for a few months due to financial issues. I agreed. I didn’t ask for money from her so she could save. Short version of the outcome is she became very abusive to me- apparently all her bad decisions are my fault, to the point when I was being sworn at and insulted on a daily basis. She refused to leave when I asked her to, so eventually, I had to move her stuff out and change the locks.
Of course, I love her and as she has made it clear I will never see her or my grandchildren again, it’s very upsetting.
If you have expected this and have any tips for getting over the abuse and not being able to see my grandchildren again, I would appreciate your advice. Thanks
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I was in the same situation, bad divorce when my daughter was 12yrs old, my ex turned her against me and I never saw her for 2yrs, she then walked out on him and came back to me. Turned from a nice child to very selfish, thought that mum was there to pay for her life. Eventually she moved out but left her junk in my house. After years gave her ultimatum as I wanted to sell.
After that I only saw her if she wanted anything. Never spoke to me for months on end. After not even getting a birthday card and when I rang being told she was fed up with my strops. I told her to stay out of my life. Best thing I could have done. Her effort to turn my family against me with lies did not work. I do have a grandson I will never see. Not bothered at all. I am better off without her.
Adult abuse is not acceptable in any shape or form. Do not beat yourself up about what you did.
Get advice about seeing your grandchildren, you have a right to see them.
I hope you situation has improved , I know exactly what you went through. I would be happy to chat more if you would like.
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Dealing with abusive adult children can compromise our livelihood, so we should set strong boundaries.
Your daughter threatens that you will not see her and your grandchildren any more
This is emotional manipulation and we should never accept such behaviour.
Stay strong and courageous.