MOVING HOME ALONE ......AND TO A NEW PART OF THE COUNTRY
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Have you any experience of moving somewhere new on your own? I would love some input into my plan for the future, if you would be so kind.
My circumstances are as follows:
I have found myself a bit isolated since I am widowed and no longer out at work. I seem to have only acquaintances rather than close friends nearby. I have joined clubs and keep busy with hobbies, but the few people I have met seem set in their existing groups of friends or are reluctant to do anything in the evening. I have retired before getting my state pension as I no longer feel well enough to work.
Lack of funds is stopping me doing more on my own.
So I have come up with a plan to sell my home and rent somewhere instead; this will give me some more disposable income, enabling me to do more and to travel to meet old friends and family. It would also take away some concerns re house maintenance.
Now for my curved ball…… It has been suggested to me that I move 100+ miles away to Warwickshire…… a beautiful area with plenty of new places for me to explore and good transport links for visiting friends and family. I have done some online investigating and it certainly has potential. Now I am wondering what pitfalls there might be that I have not thought of.
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I wonder what it would be like for me when (rather than if) my daughter decides to leave Coventry uni.
Equally I am not planning to stay where I am now as I think my son and his family may decide to move away from the area.
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How is village life compared to London?
But she has since found romance and is now thinking of moving in with him. Which means I will be living on my own in a house that is too big for one person. The council tax is over 100% more than I was paying in London! So if she does move out and settles. I will have to consider downsizing. Still in the same town though.
I can see why you ask the question about me renting and yes I do think it is a bit daunting - hence my open question really. I own a property with my son and daughter as my husband left his share to them when he died. As I am not now earning - and still 5 years off getting my state pension - so I am living on my occupational pensions. I love my family enormously, but we are a bit crowded and would all prefer our independence again. So we are going to sell our house and each take our part of the money. Unfortunately this will not give me enough to buy anything which I would like in this part of East Anglia, where I have lived for the past 40 years. For my own personal happiness I am desperate to have a garden and a spare room so I can have an occasional visitor to stay. I think that if I use the capital to rent for the next 5 years then I will be giving myself what I need now and hopefully once I get the state pension (government permitting) I wont be depleting my capital so quickly. So then my daughter threw me an odd ball.......she lives in London but works in Coventry and commutes/stays over to varying degrees. She suggested that she buys a house there and I rent from her - so I end up with a reliable landlord and she gets a "perfect" tenant who puts her up. So the additional question is...should I move to a completely new area and rent from my daughter? Should I go somewhere completely independently? I love Northumberland and have even thought of moving up there on my own as I know that some property there would be affordable to me. Lots to consider.
Thank you for your thoughts.
What surprises me with your post, is that you say you are thinking of renting. I wonder, is that wise? As you will paying rent on top of your utility commitments ie: Council tax, Gas, Electricity, Phone, Broadband, Water rates etc. The average state pension, when you are entitled to it, doesn't go very far. Private pensions & annuities are a life saver for many. Me included. If you own your present property. Have you considered downsizing and buying a smaller, cheaper property? I am not prying into your personal circumstances. Just merely urging consideration of the long term.
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But now she is thinking of moving in with her new boyfriend. So I will also be entitled to Single person Council tax allowance. And maybe even Pension credits.
I'm not suggesting that you move to Scotland. Just that you really closely scrutinise property prices and amenities in your chosen area.