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Watch this postI will be 67 next month and retired from the many different jobs in my working life. I guess that I didn’t ever find my calling. I went to university at age 59 but when it was over it was too late to launch a new career. I wanted to lecture but students don’t want to listen to old fogies, so sadly I put aside that idea and settled into life as an eccentric dog owner.
I live in a beautiful Lancashire valley surrounded by hills that demand they be walked/climbed, how could I refuse?
I would like to do a bit of cycle touring but a recent diagnosis of spondylosis and some hip pain means that I may not be doing a world tour anytime soon!
I’m keen to make some friends as I have been on my own for a very long time now, my daughters don’t bother much with me and I don’t have a partner.I didn’t expect to be so isolated at this time in my life, isn’t it strange the way family and friends seem to forget us when we get past 60?
I will pop in regularly and hope to strike up some friendships.
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You are right, life is never that bad...it's a while lot worse!
I didn’t expect to be quite so isolated at this, relatively, late stage of my life, I always thought that as the family grew in numbers, in terms of grandchildren, that I would be surrounded by loving family.
Sadly, it has not happened and I have been thrown away like an unwanted garment. It hurts at times and then there are other times when I accept my fate with grace and equanimity, there is no point in fighting against something you have no control over, is there?
My dog, Poppy, is my life now, I love her with all my heart, I guess that she gets all the love that I would have given to my daughters and their children. There is a cat too, his name is Buster, he is a huge ginger and white Tom who rules the roost around here, he comes on walks with us and other dog walkers can’t believe their eyes when they see a cat out on the hills!
I do a lot of reading and also spend a great deal of time on my computer, perhaps too much, I don’t know, but it keeps me up to date with all the dreadful things that are happening in the world today and allows me to connect with people on Silversurfers. What did we do before computers?
Well, that’s enough prattling from me for now, I hope to hear from you again soon.
Best regards
Laura
Thanks for responding. I live in Donegal, a very rural area, but the people are so nice. I have just lost the love of my life, my little Bagpuss, who was the sweetest, most loving, funny cat that ever there was. It was very traumatic and she was only 4 and I haven't got over it yet. My son got married last year and they have no children yet, but his wife seems to blow hot and cold with me. I think she has turned him against me, but I don't know why. At the wedding the only member of her family that spoke to me was her father. Maybe friends are more valuable than family when you get older. It is such a shame when you have given so much to bring them up. I agree, it does hurt. I also have 3 hens called Evelyn, Hetty and Rosie after my mum and her sisters. The sisters have passed on now and mum is in a home for people with dementia, she is 96. I don't get to see her very often as my brother has 2 spare rooms full of junk, so no room for me to stay, and a cousin made it plain that she didn't really want me there when I went over for her husband's funeral in July, which I thought was a bit ungrateful as I had made the effort to go, not to mention the expense! I also do a lot of reading, I like a good murder!! I also crochet, make wine, paint and do DIY. I like cooking and trying new things. I love the countryside. I think I probably spend too much time on my computer too, but I do surveys and also a bit of mystery shopping, which gets me out and about and contributes slightly to my pension!! I haven't quite got to grips with this site yet, haven't discovered how to look at profiles or to write my own introductory comment!! Look forward to hearing from you again. Jo
I have a brother, he's 7 years my junior, and for reasons that I could never understand he has always hated me. He would always ignore me at family gatherings, and he would tell the most outrageous lies about me to cousins, Aunts, Uncles etc, and when challenged he would just smirk and walk away. I decided one day back in 1985 to have nothing more to do with him and to waste no more emotional energy in trying to understand his hatred of me; our paths have not crossed since that day and I don't expect, or want, to see him ever again.
My mother died in 2011, she was a little short of her 92nd birthday, however, I didn't know of her death until 2013 because my brother didn't tell me, I found out by doing a bit of detective work. Unfortunately, my mother also hated me, she didn't want me when she saw that I wasn't a boy, she didn't like girls for some strange reason and always treated me like an unwelcome guest in her house. I could never do right by her, she would pick up on the slightest mistake and turn it into a major infraction. She ignored my achievements and magnified my childish failures, how do you cope with a mum like that?
The final indignity was her decision to leave her house and everything else to my brother, I wasn't even mentioned in the will; it was as though I had never existed.
I have been so very unlucky where family is concerned, I wish that I could understand why.
The rain has come down like the proverbial stair-rods this morning, but now the sun is coming out so I will sign off for now and take my little pooch for another walk.
Take care,
Laura
I try and keep busy here with the garden, the odd job, and I am involved with the Donegal Donkey Sanctuary. I man the visitor centre on Sundays. I used to muck out for them, but they have a couple of men to do that now and so I have promotion. I crochet donkey key rings to sell there and I do paintings to sell. You could look them up on their website. Do you have any hobbies?
My mother's house has been sold to keep her in the home, it costs £900 a week!!! But they do look after her well. I don't think we are talking long term as she is 96 now.
You take care. We have a very strong wind today, though it isn't raining at the moment.
Jo
So, new stage and new ventures. Anybody else where I am?
You seem to have been through the wringer a bit in recent months , but i'm sure you will come out of it a stronger person than before; the human spirit is so strong in times of crisis.
Old at 70? Never, age is only a number, so they say, although i know people much younger than myself who have simply given up and are, in effect, just waiting to die!
Are you Welsh, I'm part Welsh myself, my Gran was from South Wales and I think that I have always 'felt' Welsh, deep down inside my soul.
When I went to uni I was asked, 'what is your national identity?' Without even having to think about it, I answered, 'Welsh.'
I'm happy to chat at any time, but not at 3am please!
Hwl fawr
I haven't quite come to grips with the layout of this site as yet. However, I have written about myself in a profile, and imagined that this profile would be accessible by simply clicking on my fictional name? Not so?
Yes, I am a Welsh speaking Welshwoman living in a far-flung place called Porthmadog. Are you Welsh on your father or mother's side? Did you know and visit your Gran? Where did she live?
Carol
Cheers
Laura
Where are you from in Lancashire? I have to admit that I'm originally from Yorkshire, on the other side of the dark hill, although I have lived in Lancashire for much longer than I ever lived in Yorks and I feel more 'Lanky' than 'Yorkie' though they do make lovely chocolate!
I hope to hear from you soon.
I was born and bred in Haydock Nr, St Helens on the 29th July 1930.....Don't stop reading or laughing....In early 2010 I had 2 Strokes and went from wheelchair to Zimmer frame then to Walking stick all of which I have now cast aside...Apart from the problem down my left side in particular my left hand I feel GREAT can't really use a knife and fork. I am blessed with a wonderful partner, she is 65, who, because she is always on her iPad with Facebook, which I detest, and playing Hayday suggested I try a Chat Room so here I am.
One thing I detested about the strokes is that it took my singing voice away as I was fortunately blessed with a good one, Sang lead roles in many Amateur Operatics, still can't complain I'm still here.
Where are we now ????We live in Northern Cyprus and it is beautiful.. Our Villa has a pool 10x5 Lemon tree, orange tree, satsuma tree Plum tree and 2 Big Olive trees. The only problem He! He! is the weather..We have had a very hot summer with temps as high as 47 C at the moment we are basking in about 38/40C Care to join us for a swim ??? We also have 2 dogs.
I would really like to continue with our friendship so I will wait patiently for a reply.
Out of interest we are 2 hours ahead of you in time
I had planned to retire to Cyprus but then decided that i would not be able to cope with the heat, so I abandoned that idea. So, you are in the 'occupied' half of Cyprus, how does that work out, living among muslims?
I'm part Welsh and part Italian, but I can't sing a note, I couldn't sing if my life depended on it though I envy all those who can warble a tune or two.
I have to admit that the possibility of having a stroke is probably the one thing that really scares me, I'm completely on my own, apart from my dog and cat, and if I had a stroke and couldn't get to the phone I could lie undiscovered for days, maybe even dead when I was found. it's not a pleasant thought.
I would love to come for a dip in your pool, I will grab my towel and cossie and be with you soon.
Chat soon,
Laura
Actually living in the North is good it's much greener than the South and the people are much nicer. It wasn't an Invasion by the Turks it was an Intervention but the Greeks still hate the northern side and teach their children in schools bad things about the North. We are not bothered about the Muslems apart for when they have their Ramadams when they stick to their fastings etc,
Hey stop thinking about things like strokes, think positively like I have had to do and things will turn out good.
Right,,, I'll pick you up at the Airport, you only need your cossie, let us know the flight you'll be on.
I am also a dog owner and find myself walking her around the countryside where I live, I used to have a horse but these days I don't think I would be able to manage all the work mucking out and cleaning the field.
Strange how we find it so difficult to make friends when we hear from the media that there are so many people who live alone, children grow up and have their own lives and its hard not to feel sad thinking about the past.
Like you, the last thing I expected was to be on my own in later life having had a full and happy family life for so long.
Would be happy to communicate with you - Julie
Sorry to hear you are feeling so alone Celtwitch. I found that relationships with friends and family changed when I was widowed and making new friends is very difficult compared to when I was young.
What did you study at Uni? When I moved last year I joined U3A as it helps to have specific stuff to do outside of home. They are always looking for people with interests to share. I have heard some great speakers on all sorts of subjects and there are group leaders too - many with no qualifications but lots of interest and enthusiasm.
Through U3A I have acquaintances rather than friends, but am persevering.
Also It is a real bummer when our health issues interfere with us doing what we enjoy... I cant walk as far I used to and it is so annoying. However, I am planning to get another dog as soon as I have moved into my own place again . It may have to be a smaller/slower dog than before but I am enjoying looking at websites on breeds and rescue dogs and training and in fact, all things doggy! and catty!
What's Reiki? 😕