Brinny

Miracles do happen !

I received my payment in November. Sadly, because my husband was alive on the cut off date (23rd September ?) his payment was not released. He was receiving palliative care at home and died on 7th October. During the last weeks of his life the heating was on 24/7 so his part of the allowance could have contributed to the heating bill. I have challenged the DWP about their decision but am not holding my breath.

Ok, here goes. We have an elderly neighbour who lost his wife 10 years ago. We have helped him with shopping, meals out, visited him in hospital etc etc. He has two children and four adult grandchildren who all visit him now and then. They are a lovely family but are totally frustrated by his attitude. He takes no interest in anything they have done (it's not what he did !) Then complains because they don't go to see him. If he needs help he is too stubborn to ask and says that his Mum and Dad never had to ask him to do anything as he looked after them. "Not like his family !" We have him every Thursday for a game of dominoes, which he loves, but last week he was moaning about his family not doing something and I said "different generation - you need to ask and not be stubborn. He turned on me and said he would not compromise his principles for anyone ! Then on Friday, he met his daughter for lunch. She tried to contact him to see that he got home safely. No reply, so daughter rings me to see if his lights are on. OH and I go into his house to check that he is not there and that he has not fallen. It is now dark and no sign of him, his daughter starts phoning around to see if she can find him. At 7pm he returns home having been to the eye clinic at the hospital. He couldn't be bothered to tell his daughter ! We are all getting annoyed with his attitude and frankly, being pensioners ourselves, do we want this hassle ?

Thank you Carole

Thank you all for your helpful replies. I will let you know what happens !

Thank you, let the travels begin.

Thank you - it's always good to have another opinion.