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I can tell you if I don’t state being gay up front and a friendship develops when they find out often the friendship is terminated. Many people are homophobic And rejection is real. Not everyone has unconditional love nor treats the marginalized in society as equal. . So just let people be who they want and don’t judge them for wanting to embrace themselves because there is often a lot of pain behind that.

I think all humans need to feel a sense of belonging to a tribe. When someone is marginalized by society they have more mine fields to walk through in life. Family and friend rejection is a big one. I.e. People will often find out a person is gay and automatically have bias about that individual and often this leads to less opportunities in work, housing, friends and neighbors, etc. and then thier are safety issues. so yes people lie for a reason. It’s called survival. Some don’t and that is thier path thru life ,and some mentally can’t handle it ,so don’t bash them for it. It’s not a choice. And people can be very judgemental throwing thier kids out in the street if they disagree with thier inborn sexuality. Rejection is real and many gays learn at an early life to shut up and lie until you can be on your own, cause if you don’t you could be homeless. It’s messed up. But that is society. I don’t expect anyone who is not marginalized to understand. All I can hope for is unconditional love and kindness and the people with those attributes are the ones welcome in my tribe.