Take that first step to meeting new people

Trying a new social group can feel daunting, but the upsides of expanding your circle of friends far outweigh any initial discomfort, claims national friendly society, the Oddfellows.

It says that new friendships can reinvigorate you and open up new possibilities, interests and routes to support.

Nationally, the Oddfellows has around 40,000 members, mostly older adults, based across its 99 branches. It organises around 700 social events each month, such as teas, talks, lunches, walks and quizzes, for people to enjoy together.

The first step to meeting new people is to embrace the mindset of staying open to new friendships, says Sharon Cottle, Branch Secretary for Cheshire-based Handforth and Altrincham Oddfellows.

“It’s easy to think that everyone has their friendship circles sorted, but in my experience this really isn’t the case,” said Sharon. “There’s always room for more. When you age, your needs change, as well as your interests and your routine.

“Knowing how to meet people is often a big hurdle. That’s why general friendship groups such as the Oddfellows are a great starting point. You meet a broad range of personalities and can try different activities.

“We also appreciate how giving a new group a go can be nerve-wracking. We’ve been that person. That’s why there’s always an event host who will look out for you and introduce you to some friendly regulars.

“Yes, you will probably feel awkward for a few minutes, but once that initial moment has passed, you’ll be part of the gang. We look after each other here,” she added.

Ann Whitehead

Ann Whitehead was one such member. She retired early from her career as a beauty therapist following her mum’s death. Despite feeling anxious at the thought of meeting new people, she knew it would help her with her grief and the changes that had come through giving up her sociable job.

Ann decided to head along to one of Sharon’s events.

“I was nervous at first,” Ann admitted, “but getting out and meeting people helped me cope with what I was going through.”

“There were so many people to meet at the events,” she said. “I’d go to one in one area and then another elsewhere and I wouldn’t see the same people every time. It’s great to get to know so many people and find out about them and their lives.

“Everyone is so welcoming, it was like therapy. And Sharon, the Branch Secretary, is amazing. She makes sure everyone feels welcome,” added Ann.

The Oddfellows is a non-profit run by members, for members, to improve the quality of people’s lives. Its branches offer support to members through organising regular social events and activities as well as offering volunteering opportunities and a travel club. Members also benefit from wellbeing support and advice with dedicated helplines.

Throughout September, the Oddfellows is celebrating Friendship Month and hosting hundreds of local taster events and online open days designed to show newcomers the benefits of joining a friendship group.

To learn more and to receive a free information pack and local events diary, call 0800 028 1810, email [email protected], fill in an online form or visit www.friendshipmonth.com

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