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Moving to the coast

Has anyone retired to the coast? Does it work?


Created By on 18/04/2024

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Robanpen Original Poster
19th Apr 2024 08:00:41 (Last activity: 5th May 2024 09:10:22)
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I retired to the coast to be closer to my daughter and it really isn't working. How many other people have done likewise and found themselves in a similar situation. So unhappy.
Response from Jet2753 made on 4th May 2024 23:13:29
I moved to the coast nearly 2 years ago after splitting from my husband. during the first six months it was ok but then my dog passed away and the loneliness of missing her and my friends and family really hit me. I decided I could either sit in my gorgeous bungalow and be lonely or enjoy the life I moved away for.
I joined a local walking group who do walks most days. I volunteer at a local cafe on a Monday, Tuesday I go Nordic walking, Wednesday and Friday I play badminton, Saturday or Sunday I go walking and more importantly I have a new little rescue dog in my life who has enabled me to talk to lots of local people, some who now meet up and we go for walks on the beach together. We’re also going to try a local quiz in a few weeks. I would suggest not relying on your daughter for your company but try different things, I tried quite a few different clubs before I found what I liked and I’m very happy now. Good luck and please make an effort to get out and about, it will take a lot of courage but so worth it.
Response from Robanpen Original Poster made on 5th May 2024 09:10:22
So pleased to read you're now happy and that you have another dog. The pain of losing a pet is unbearable but to give another one a good home is sheer pleasure for both. Unfortunately I am somewhat disabled so walking is a problem which restricts quite a lot. I have done my utmost to find friends even joining clubs but found people extremely cliquey as where I live is very quiet and the community keep themselves to themselves having lived here for many years. Many years' ago I bred dogs. First, the English Setter then the Alsatian such happy times with puppies bounding out in the morning to be fed. I now only have a cat but love her bits. She's old like her mum but we're company for each other. My daughter desperately wanted me to move closer but see little of her as she has a life of her own which I understand. I wish we had both given it more thought before I moved. Thank you so much for replying.

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