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Am I unlucky or was I born to be a Carer?

My wife and I grew up together from about ten years of age, had fifty eight years of married life during which I spent twenty nine years as her Carer, she had Parkinsons, then Lewy Bodies and finally cancer which took her from me nine years ago. I then married someone that I had known for many years, she had been a Carer for her husband who suffered for many years with Alzheimers, we have now been married for five year but sadly just over two years ago she was diagnosed with Alzheimers. The thoughts of enjoying ourselves and making up for our lost years was taken away, for me normal service resumed. The Cared for are to be pitied and need our sympathy for their condition but in reality the Carer who could be fit, agile, and fully functioning is the one most robbed and deprived.


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dcline35
5th Jan 2022 16:28:05
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Lots of us have a similar burden. My wife of 63 years has Parkinson's, she had a stroke, had Covid. I Have developed home hobbies that keep my mind active. Gardening and photography do not require much investment. Try writing a family history. A DNA analysis will introduce you to new family, The life of your parents can be interesting.
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