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Coping with unkind words

About to be locked down, no escape from my 92 year old husband who is becoming increasingly unkind. They say words can’t hurt, change the subject or walk away. But we are stuck again.


I have lovely friends and we go for walks and out for coffee. My husband is well but limited in what he can do. Going out is frightening. Where is the help?


My children are all abroad and can’t return because of the virus, they help by chatting on FaceTime. My brothers live nearby but my husband is rude and insulting to my relatives.


There must be lots like me, horrified at the idea of shut down although I have plenty to be thankful for really. I live in a lovely spot, good walks, good health and a big garden to look after and kind friends. Any suggestions?


Created By on 02/11/2020

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PurpleHat
4th Nov 2020 23:02:44
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GardeningGran. I feel for you. Words can hurt especially when they are unjustified .I've had a similar situation where I live now (I am widowed) so I know how you are feeling. Maybe inside he is feeling tired and frightened and just hitting out at everything, and if he will not talk it through he will just carry on hurting himself as much as others. Maybe!.. You can only try. The garden has been my escape, I can forget any problems pottering about and get satisfaction for my small triumphs. I tell myself I don't have to take this, I don't deserve it and I'm not going to let it get me down,Have time to be yourself and chill out. Best wishes..
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