What you need to know about online dating
For better or worse, going online is one of the most modern methods for making a romantic connection.
There’s many advantages; you can connect with people you’d otherwise never meet and if you’re nervous or dating for the first time in many years it can be a safe and simple way to ‘get back out there’.
Today we’re sharing what you need to know about dating online whether you’re going to try it yourself or are encouraging a friend.
Know what you’re looking for
Different people are looking for different things on dating websites, so be clear about what you want and don’t assume everyone feels the same way you do. Some people use dating websites primarily to find new sexual partners or casual encounters, while others are looking for serious committed relationships. There’s no right or wrong – understand what you want, and be prepared to ask what others are looking for.
Details sometimes lie
Honesty is the best policy, but also take things with a pinch of salt. Many people lie about their age – saying they’re younger than they are – or use photographs of themselves that are not an accurate reflection of what they look like now. This is understandable; we wall want to present the best version of ourselves, and particularly when trying to make a romantic connection, many people feel vulnerable and afraid of rejection. Don’t focus on age and appearance – what should be most important is things like shared interests, expectations, and the ability to communicate.
Go at your own pace
The best thing about online dating is that you can do it on your own terms and in a way that feels safe and comfortable for you. You may start with many matches or just one or two – take your time and if you’re struggling it’s always okay to take a break.
Go from online to offline
The safety of our computer screens can provide a false sense of intimacy, where we share many details with a stranger we would never feel comfortable doing face to face. After some initial conversation, take the plunge and suggest speaking on the phone or planning to meet – weeks and months chatting can build up nerves and unrealistic expectations and make that first meeting more difficult than it needs to be. Keep in mind that if someone is available to chat but not available to meet they may be hiding something or simply not the kind of person who is truly ready to enter into a relationship.
Find a dating site that works for you
There are so many dating websites out there it’s difficult to know where to begin. Tinder is quick and easy, making it a favourite with Millennials. But it also has a reputation for being more about casual encounters than serious relationships. Paid sites like eHarmony may provide more peace of mind if you’re new to the dating scenes – there is a huge emphasis on compatibility and matches are made rather than being simply picked from a lineup. Finding a dating website that’s part of a community you’re already comfortable with or in a niche area can also make it easier to find like-minded singles. Silversurfers Dating is specifically for people over 50 and a great place to start.
Do you have any tips for dating online? Share your experiences in the comments below!
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